morning girls

Danni, what a silly thing for those women to have said - are we meant to keep babies at home the whole time, i wish people like that wiuld keep thier comment to themselves!

Trina, i feel sad that noone has come to see Summer, thats awful and you are right it is their loose... stil not nice thou... i have been suprised at how few people have come over, most of my friend live the other side of melb so i guess they dont want the travel - makes you see wjo your rea friends are huh!
if we end up having loads of kids i am coming to you for lessons!!! you are amazing...

Well it is now 6pm and i started this post at 9am!

Prama - re the circumcision thing, it is a personal thing, DSS is not circumcised and was troubled with UTI's in his early life, because of this we had decided that if it was a boy, we would get him done. 2 weeks before Molly was born, we changed our mind. A couple of reasons really, it is not longer common practice and Australia and America are the countries that do it for cosmetic reasons as apposed to religious, DSS is not, DH is and by doing it to our son (if we have one) will create a difference between the two boys and i read quite a it about it and this stood out... we know now that the foreskin and the glans penis are fused at birth and meant to be. The foreskin only gradually separates. You cannot wash beneath a baby's foreskin and should not try. It may not be possible (or necessary or desirable) to wash beneath it until a little boy is four or five years old... it goes on a bit more but i thought that this was quite relevant you son doesnt need his foreskin stripped off to keep his penis clean anymore than he needs his nose slit to keep it clean
It is totally your decision and i think one that should be respected either way - i certainly will not force my opinion on you and i hope that you do not think that this is what i am doing by writing this, it is just that you asked and this is what helped with our decision.

DANNI to you again, re men getting a form of post natal depression, i believe that it is totaly possible, especially if Matt has been displaying signs for several years.
He probably is at quite a high risk ATM as he has just started a new job and this was a major change for him, coupled with the stress of having Jazz in Special Care and then bringing her home and having to adjust is enough to push many people over the edge. Hopefully he can have a chat with his GP - i dont always agree that medicating is the answer, rather seeing if the root of the cause can be found first and learning coping strategies, as even if he is medicated and hasn't done any of this, any time a stressor occurs in his life, he will be likely to rebound (also if he is a proud man, he may start to feel better and then decide that he no longer needs the meds, take himself off with or without your knowledge and then crash harder) I would suggest getting him to talk to a councilor or psychologist (not a psychiatrist) or see if there is a fathers support group for him to join... maybe if you think that he wont go to something like that, you could find a group and suggest that you both go, possibly on the pretence that you need to go.
The other thing, i am sure that you have done this, but talk to him and tell him that you have noticed a change in him and that you are worried about it, he may just need a good chat about his fears and concerns.
I hope this helps