Girl- I dont think there is anything to worry about. My Friends Boy if 11 months and still doesnt crawl. Just cos some of the bubs this age are walking and some are crawling doesnt mean anything. All bubs develope different. Is She talking??? COmpared to other babies DD doesnt say much... although it is increasing. She is more content with trying to walk where others prefer to play or talk etc...
I was thinking maybe one of those Kinder little bars of chocolate or if they had easter ones i would maybe get 1 for DD. Kmart have the walker prams on special i wanted to get her for christmas last yr so might get her that instead of doing the easter thing. DS doesnt need any more hyper so maybe few for him and something to play with... people go MAD with chocolate for easter... I just want it over cos i'm so tempted by all the choccy... LOL.
Well Tiahna took 2 steps of the couch and crash landed and now wont stand. I thought i wrote this yesterday but nope.... Now when you get her to stand she squats down on the flats of her feet... Think she is scared a bit... She is sill keen on the futniture and gets around so fast now and is taking more risk to not need to hold on... I think the fall shook her up a bit though.
Tiahna is down to 3 bottles comfortably now. i finally got her to ddrink from cup... well straw mag mag cup and she loves it... She wont touch the sippy cups but loving the straw so is now drinking water... YAY... she spis on it all day and loves seeing her cup. Were now in 0 Clothes although and i'm loving the walker shoes... I brought her 2 pais. (buy one get one 1/2 price ). Also we still have no hair... its not growing at all...
Sass- I think you'll be the 1st with another bubs. GL with the diet... I actually got off my a$$ yesterday and went for a walk up the shop and carried all the bags home... God my arms were killing but felt good...
Bec- God i hope DS grows up... it seems like he's acting up more not getting better. He's just so nasty and bitter towards everything lately... GL with the choldcare decision. Its a toughie. Hope the BF sorts itself out... I have heard a few people saying same thing around this time and up... Probably another "fase"....
NaNa- Gosh like u need any more stress hun... Do u think that DS just has too much energy and is waking up at night from that?? r u doing the swimming lessons ?? was it you starting up or someone else... Hope u get everything sorted.
ALSo i find with my DS the more i try to make him do things my way the harder things were. I had to change my way of doing things to better suit us. especially now. You can take DP's aproach of yell yell yell or mine of talking calmly and guess who gets results... If you give jordan something to do he is mostly good but things like shopping are bad and doing things out of the ordinary or unexpected sends him out of wack.
Girl - There are a couple of bubs in my playgroup that are the same age or older than Aadi and they're not crawling yet. They do the same thing as Yasmeenia tho, spinning around on their bottoms and moving around the room like that! Don't worry about it. My friend's DS is a day younger than Aadi and doesn't even have any sign of teeth yet!
Good luck with uni, and your assignments!
Bec - I hope you're feeling better now. I know it's hard, but try not to stress about the BF, it probably doesn't help! If you can keep at it for 12 months, then you've done so great, and it will be easier to decide what you want to do then. AF really seems to mess things up a bit, especially if it's only just started for you. I found some really helpful info and advice on kellymom dot com that really eased my mind, I can send you a link if you want. I found it quite by accident because I was googling repair advice for my medela pump coz it wasn't working (it had been so long since I'd used it!). I hadn't looked at their site for maybe 6 months. It's a bit, well, american, but still relevant. Lucky Cam was so good for you when you were so sick. Also, I hope you work out something with childcare. I'm looking into family daycare and occasional care here now, since I'm not going to get a break any other way!
With the name changing business, unfortunately it's all thru Qld. I was born there, and Australia just isn't federated in some really major, important things like that. Argh! They're so backward and slow!! I have to get onto it and sort it out ASAP, and pay the stupid fees to have my dad's name legally again. I don't even want to be associated with him or his name, but I have to. For Aadi's ID, and if I ever want to live overseas (and therefore marry DP!). He's applying for work in Paris, and I'd be silly not to want to go there!
Jess - isn't it devastating when you think you've snaffled a great thing in an online stocking, and then it's gone?! It sucks! I don't know what Aadi's issue is, but 3am he's awake and yelling and kicking. DP and I are not the kind of people to yell or get angry, but we're being frustrated a lot at the moment. I haven't taken him swimming lately as we've all got a cold, and Gymbaroo is too far away and expensive, and by all accounts, pretty lame anyway. He just tears around the house all day, and I try and wear him out as best I can! Paed said I have to be REALLY strict with his discipline, but it's certainly hard when he doesn't understand anything much yet.
Oops, he's awake. Better go!
She is a chatterbox. She very stops talking or making noises when she is at home with DH and me. She even initiated conversations with strangers at the supermarket or shopping centre. But lately she is somewhat shy when it comes to new people. She is very cautious and keeps a close eye on them. She also doesn't like to be left with people she does not know but a month ago she didn't mind staying with someone new. She does show signs of wanting to stand. She usually pulls on me to help her stand.
Bec,
I do sincerely feel for you. It is hard to look after a baby and not feeling well. Good luck with trying to get daycare for Cameron. I guess it is best to place your child in a centre where you feel most comfortable with.
OMG I just noticed Tiahna is now getting the next 2 teeth beside her top 4 and 2 beside her bottom 2... OMG... This necklace must be working... We've had no tears or discomfort lots of other symptoms tho... I'm stunned. we have 7 through and cut (one only Just) the rest are big bubbles. that will be 10 teeth when they all come through.....
Well today i decided i would email round to see if i could get some kind of income from home... I looked at becoming a MCN consultant or kids clothes... Well i got 6 emails back with offers. so now i have to choose.
Wonder if i could do a clothing one and an MCN one.
Jess - Wow on the next teeth. I just seen your message on fb too about not having that necklace on...sounds like it was a very good investment...its amazing how the stones work. I use to be into crystals and stuff, so I have a couple of stones around the house, but I think they all need a cleanse though.
NaNa - Bummer being a QLD'er...stupid slow system. We were warned it was a bugger (and costly) to the named changed through QLD and that was over 6 years ago...obviously nothings changed. Hope it doesn't take too long for you. Yeah, not overly that stressed about the BFing - I'm proud to have gotten to 10months (I had it in my head I was going to dry up at 4months like my mum did with me and my brother ) - so anything past that points been great. I'm still offering, but no go. I'll just keep expressing as much as I can and at this stage as I've not been getting much, I'll just give it to him for his bed bottle.
Girl - See nothing to be worried about with the crawling...Yasmeenia seems to be possibly excelling in other areas to make up for it...little chatterbox hey. Cam's only recently started to become more chatty...that was an area I was a little concerned about, but I know he'll get there, and it seems he started to become more chatty over the last few days.
Well decision has been made about childcare...though I had to go and confuse myself just that little bit more though ...started to look into FDC as well. But as I had to let the centres know by today and after talking it over and weighing the pros and cons of all 3 options, we decided to go with the child care centre with the Thursday Friday available. Cam starts on the 16th April - Thursday week - it makes me sad that my maternity leave days are coming to an end and that I'll have to leave him with others (even if its only for 3 days a week). But I know he will be fine and probably have so much fun playing with the other kiddies. We will pop in there for a little play and complete forms next week.
Cam has begun waking up again a couple of times at night, well last night was 9.30pm, then 5am (but then thankfully ended up sleeping til 7.20am), then again he woke not long ago at 9pm. Not sure whats going on...he is dribbling a heap but can't see any signs of teeth coming through, so it must be developmental. Last night, both times took a while to comfort and calm, but after talking with DH today, we decided to try something else - as silly as it may sound. Everytime we go into when he is crying, he is standing up...so I thought, maybe its what my friend said about him trying learn to stand and walk. So just before when he woke, when I went in, after not being able to comfort with a cuddle, I put him on the ground and helped him stand then walk around his room...he then calmed down and seems to have gone back to sleep - no worries. Maybe that was a fluke, but interesting it worked though.
That's all from me for now, this has taken me about 1.5hrs to type as it is (was doing it bit by bit, while I've made and eaten dinner and calmed Cameron).
We had sleep school today. What a colossal waste of time! It was basically their take on controlled crying, and their ideas on when I should feed my child that goes against absolutely everything else I've read or tried, and against everything that works for us. They hadn't even bothered to read my notes or file when we arrived, and couldn't understand why we didn't want to even try putting Aadi into a cot to sleep 1, in a strange environment, 2, when he hasn't slept in a cot for months, and 3, when he was so hysterical from being kept awake by their nonsense and other kids there screaming that he was bashing his head on the bars. We left at midday.
They had even blanked out on the nutritional posters on the walls about when to feed/BF your child, and put in their version. Very lame. DP and I tried so hard to go with an open mind and get something, anything, out of the day but they were just insistent that we try and put Aadi to sleep in a way that wasn't gentle and went against everything we have strived to achieve, and ended up being very distressing for all of us. We have never had that much trouble getting him to sleep, and they wouldn't hear us when we tried to explain that that wasn't why we were there!
Oh well. Completely threw our day out of whack, and now we have the end of daylight savings time to contend with too! We rang around a couple of other sleep schools but the only other one that is an option is $3000 for a 4-night residential stay, and will only accept our private insurance if I'm diagnosed as having PND and there's a risk of me hurting my child. Not likely! They did, however, put us on to a woman who works independently, and she's coming round on Tuesday night (for a fee) to see what help she can provide. She seems ok, and provides follow-up support, but I am going to call her and check what her thoughts are on gentle parenting and my personal beliefs first, tho. Don't want to waste our time and money if it's going to be a repeat performance of today.
My GP is on leave so he hasn't sorted out anything with our paed for extra care or assistance. Maybe in a couple of weeks when he's back... I think booking Aadi into occasional care for a half-day or two a week might be more useful. Give me time to rest first, then gather my thoughts and strength, and then focus on an effective way of dealing with this challenging little boy that doesn't crush his spirit or let him become a "problem child".
Jess - wow on all them choppers! So glad the amber necklace is working so well for Tiahna too!
Bec - I don't like to admit I'm a QLDer. Dont tell anyone! haha! Yeah, the government is soooooo freakin slow and backward, and they've JUST put the prices up on the certificate stuff. bah! I'll have to go back to my dad's name for now, even tho I've practically disowned him. And even tho I don't want one, you have to have a surname, apparently... Good luck with the childcare centre. I hope it turns out to be a great thing for all of you. I thought about FDC too, but I'm just a bit hesitant still. DP said No F'ing Way. That's pretty strong words for him, so CCC it is!
Oh NaNa sorry to hear... I had an idea that sleep shcool is al about controlled crying (a friend of mine did them but in orange but i thought maybe some had a different approach... Isnt it aweful when people just cant offer you the right help... Having issues with DS and getting him help for his behaviour... ... But i could take over this thread with my whinging so i wont... I really hope that u can work with Ds and get him and yourself some sleep... I have run out of idea for you sorry... I guess the best person to know your DS is you and your DP... it might take a while but at least you know it was done your way...
Well after looking round for a SAH job i can accross HEAPS of consultant jobs but the commissions suck to be honest. so i'm looking into maybe starting up my own business... (just on the huss huss incase it doesnt work out) Just looking in to supliers and all the nitty griity of the website and hosting and blah blah blah... so we'll see... Even if its small to start with and i can expand... I would eventually like to hire my own consultants (my other SAHM friends) but that will be a while away yet.
We did have a little bit of sooking the other night from DD i guess 4 teeth care a bit much to handle even with the Amber necklace... (maybe i need bigger amber beeds... lol) well i gave her some sm33 and some panadol (more cos she was pulling so much on here ears i was worried she would pull the earings out making it worse. She had a much needed slep and was fine when she woke up so i'm impressed... (also woke with one bottom tooth cut and up... amazing,.... Some are slow to cut and come up but others are fast.
Bec- Its a bugger having to return to work isnt it...but i actually think CC is good for kids... i will be starting DD soon just for the socialisation and i think it helps then be less dependant on MUm all the time... plus they really enjoy it...
This will be a miracle if it works, i am going to make it short as i haven't the patience for losing a long post this morning..
NaNa so sorry to hear sleep school was like that for you, honestly i have only ever heard of one person to say it worked for them, and there trouble was getting there baby to sleep, not the wake ups. I hope you have more success with the one on one lady.
Jess - Good luck with new business, i was thinking of starting my own book keeping business from home but i am having second thoughts now. I dont have the best self discipline and have a habit of leaving everything to the last minute and i am not sure i would be good at working from home.
Sass - wow on Jayda steps, that is great, they look so cute when they start walking.
Bec- I am starting an extra shift at work from this week but thankfully i dont need day care as i work at night and on weekends. I would like to eventually get back into my real job instead of just working for mum and dad but i am not sure if i will wait until after next baby. Oh i have no idea what to do. Good luck with starting work again, i think the adult interaction will be good but hard to leave Cam..
I am having a bad few days, have a few health issues but wont go into it atm until i get results later in the week. Hamish is going well, standing alot now on his own but no steps as yet. Daylight saving s has thrown him out of wack a bit but hopefully after a few days we will get back on track.
Oh Abb sorry to hear your having health issues... If u need a chat were all here for you or you can PM me or chat to me on FB...
BB is having some issues but i know Kell is trying to work them out... I'm loyal... i love my BB gals... specially you ladies... I noticed the other girls that went to the other thread (may1-15th's thread) is VERY slow... i wish they had of combined us.
DD is a bit sooky today another one is cutting through... Wont be long now...
well jayda got herself used to daylight saving ending about 2 weeks ago so it hasnt been that bad for us.
i noticed this morning she has a bottom tooth just come through. so she is up to 5 now. 4 on the top and 1 on the bottom.
i am slowly starting to put a little bit of cows milk into her bottles so i can get her used to it over a extending amount of time. we r going away in june and it will be good not having to worry about formula.
hmmmmm wat else...... not much happening just their birthday coming up very fast lol.
Sass-- Yay on more teeth,,, lol... 5 teeth... were approaching 10... lol...
Havent started the cows milk here... I will be leaving DD on formula for a while... i like the extra benefits of the toddler formula. but i did switch DS when he was 12 months... (well gradually).
DD has woken up this morning with bad eczema... her fgace is a mess... trying to figure out what made her react that way... she had grapes yesterday evening but i doubt if thats what caused it. Hmmmm she had a NaNa... (hehe) that does react with her but she has has 2 in 1 day and still not had such a bad reaction... Hmmm... Maybe Ds put something in the bath maybe he's always adding stuff... .
Daylight savings hasnt made much difference except last night DD was so tired she was in bed at 5 so she was up at 6.15 but thats good cos i was up at 4.30.
Jess - it's tonight. I rang her yesterday and got her opinions on the sleep school's philosophy and she seemed ok with the fact that we didn't agree with it and it wouldn't work for us. She said we weren't the first family to have walked out on that particular institution having had a bad experience. Hopefully she'll have some good advice, because we were up again every hour from midnight last night, and from 3-5 with DS basically playing up. Up at 6.30 for the day, and currently screaming at me because he wont nap. Goes from tired to extreme in a split second, there's no in-between.
Hope you can work out what's causing the excema flare-ups. It wasn't me, I swear!!
Sass - that's so amazing how Jayda got all her top teeth first! And great that you haven't had any troubles with her sooking much because of teething. I think maybe Aadi got all the teething troubles for all the babies in the world some days... number 6 finally cut thru yesterday, after threatening to for the last 6 weeks!
Abb - hope everything's ok with you. You know where to find us if you need to chat.
nana: good luck with the sleep lady tonight i hope she can sort things out for u.
i uploaded a pic of jayda walkin on fb check it out.
not much else to report here. just sick of the rain.
it has been 12months today since my pop died it seems to go so fast. means only 6 weeks till bubs birthday. makes me so sad he tried so hard to hold out to see her.
ok, quick update from me...
we had the mothercraft nurse come on Tuesday night. She was lovely, and really helpful. Complete opposite to sleep school "nurses"! She freaked out about us having Aadi in a bed though, but understood that it was a last-ditch attempt by us to get him to sleep, and not in our bed. So we have tried to get him back into his cot, in his own room. We're "camping out" in there at night until he learns how to resettle without so much help. Tuesday night he took 45 minutes to go to sleep with us constantly taking it in turns to comfort him, patting, shooshing and singing with the radio on too. The nurse could see immediately that he is a full-on high-needs kid, and suggested we try medication like Pain-Stop, phenurgen, valergen (sp?), or anything we can get our hands on! And a couple of nights a week we have a "sleep medicine" night where we all get some sleep. Yes, it's that bad! Especially since Aadi suffers so badly when he's teething and things like Panadol and Nurofen don't seem to do much at all. Also, DP and I are taking it in turns to sleep in the bungalow so we can get some much-needed uninterrupted sleep.
Anyway, Aadi slept from 8-1.30, but woke up and banged his head on the bars and wouldn't resettle for me, so after an hour I got DP to try. Half an hour more screaming before he went back to sleep, then woke up every hour after that until needing a nappy change at 5.30. He was so hysterical he couldn't even tell me "doddy" (potty) like he normally does. Blah. Wednesday was a shocking day, and he wouldn't sleep because he knew I was going to put him in the cot. He was horrid to me. Screamed all day. I caved and lay down with him and fed him to sleep just so I could rest for 5 minutes. He only slept 25 minutes anyway. By 5pm he still wouldn't relent and nap again, and the nurse rang to check up on me while he was screaming at me. I told her I was going to put him to sleep the only way I could, and call her back. I was a mess by then, and she was telling me I was - in her opinion - borderline PND and needed to go to a hospital. That really pi$$ed me off, so I went and cried with Aadi for a bit and fed him off to sleep again. Then composed myself and called her back. I explained to her that I am not depressed, I'm just frustrated and exhausted and this is the first time I've lost it like that. She understood, especially since I have NO support or assistance here and it's been just me 24-7 dealing with this high-needs kid. She still wants me to try and get into one of the other sleep schools before we go away, but there's nothing available until July/August anywhere. And none of them are covered by my health insurance. The system has let us down yet again...
So anyway, after I put Aadi to sleep at 5, I had to wake him up at 6 to feed him and try and get him back into the routine... He ate some dinner, and had a bath, but was so tired and upset. I gave him a BF and then DP came to try and put him to bed. He was falling asleep in our arms, but as soon as DP put him in the cot he cracked it and then vomited everywhere. DP got him out of the cot and Aadi immediately vomited again, all over DP! Then I copped it while trying to clean everything up. He hasn't been sick like that since starting solids, so it was pretty disgusting even though I'm well and truly used to chucking! Aadi was so miserable. After I cleaned everything up, DP put him back to bed in the cot and he slept, but woke up every hour from midnight again. At 5.30 DP brought him in to me for a BF, but he was carrying on and kicking me again, so he went back in the cot and slept until 7.
I tried to get him to nap in the cot yesterday, and he was so tired but he wouldn't stop throwing a tantrum and screaming. I just couldn't listen to it anymore so I popped him in the pram and went for a walk. He finally fell asleep at about 10.30, after about a kilometre. And stayed asleep for an hour without stirring. I had to go out again in the afternoon, so put him in the sling. Right on 2pm he fell asleep and napped for 45 minutes. I was walking the whole time, and then he woke up right when I got to my appointment with a FDC company. Wreaked havoc in their office, then back in the sling to walk home. Another 2km. My shoulders muscles are like golf balls...
So last night Aadi was exhausted and DP put him to bed without a problem. He woke every hour from 10pm, and by midnight DP couldn't do it anymore and put him to sleep with him on the mattress on the floor. It probably is a really bad time to be trying this big change since Aadi's TEETHING like crazy again. But we're persisting. It's really hard, since Aadi WILL NOT settle for me, and that means weekdays are going to be hard, but I'll keep trying over the long weekend while I have DP here to support me, and see how we go.
OK, I'm done. Hope you're all doing well! Enjoy your long weekend.
OMG Tiahna just too her 1st 4 un assisted steps and i missed it on camera... She has done 1-3 before but i thought i'd wait for a woo hoo til she had progressed to 2 both feet... LOL... She is still a little scared after her big fall but also excited when she does it herself.
NaNa- glad the lady was nice... WOW on recommending something to knock him out... But i guess u all need sleep... and i notice with my wild child that if he doesnt get enough sleep he gets worse and worse.
Sounds like you are having such an aweful time with this sleep business... i really feel for u... My DS was very similar..... i started givinghim camomile tea at about 4.30 every afternooon to get him to relax and get into our night routine... I guess its difficult when u dont want to do the controlled crying because nearly every sleep school seem to choose this method... I really hope that i can find something that works... wonder if there are any other foods and things that have a relaxing effect... or maybe some oils and things... maybe burning them or making a mix to massage into him... u know like the baby bath or baby bolsum???
Were having teething issues also... needed neurophen few times... The necklace has helped so much but 4 teeth are just way too much for her to handle sometimes. We got our 1st ever MCN yesterday a Maz-alicious Nite nap but i think i needed a medium size. she leaked out the legs... but it was on almost 12 hours so didnt doo too bad...
Hope everyone had a great easter and all the bubs enjoy their 1st ever easter. I just got Tiahna a kinder bunny..... i spent $140 on 4 new MCN's for her this week. plus too much chocy will make her get a sore tummy.
ETA.... Sass... must be a tough time for u ... i remember u going through this at the ending of ur pregnancy... Just know ur pop is watching Jayda from above... if u need a chat u know where to find me
Last edited by Je$$_84; April 10th, 2009 at 12:03 PM.
yeah, Jess, for Maz-a-licious you would probably need a medium. I don't know about the sizing of her night nappies coz they're new, I just have some of her covers, and the large cover on Aadi is big enough to go OVER a big bubble-bum night nappy! It's super-important to check the weight range and measurements for all MCN if you're not getting OSFM/OSFA. Definitely ask in the cloth nappy thread about what type you're thinking of getting and someone (probably Gigi) will be able to tell you if they're a good fit for your DD's shape. It seems so expensive at first, but when you haven't had to buy sposies for a month, it feels great. Also, with the nite nap, you will need to give it at least 10 washes before it's at it's peak absorbency. Same with all bamboo and hemp products. If you're getting gapes around the legs, try taking the boosters out. If that fits better, you can put the boosters outside the nappy and put a cover over the lot. At least until Tiahna grows into it a bit better.
I have tried to keep Aadi calm by using as many natural methods as I know of. I always put lavender oil in his bath, and try to massage him afterwards but he doesn't keep still long enough to do it anymore! I have an oil burner going with a special calming blend of oils all the time, and have gone thru a few bottles of Brauer Calm formula. I have decided to cut out dairy from Aadi's diet after trying him on yoghurt and some cheese. It's just not worth it. I avoid anything with tomato in it, and prepare all his food myself now. DP thinks I'm being food-paranoid, but I know how much of an impact it can have on behavioural issues and health. I ate too much cheese the other day, and Aadi and I both suffered afterwards. For a couple of days. It's yuk. I don't want to have to go down the avenue of medicating, but it's getting so hard on DP and I, and Aadi is sleep-deprived too. It's no good for any of us. And it's not that I don't want to do the controlled crying thing (well, I don't) but I know that it isn't going to work without destroying his trust in me completely or making him even more clingy than he already is. It's not worth it. He's challenging enough.
Sass, I'm thinking of you. I remember this time last year, and was wondering last week how you must be feeling now. I hope you're ok.
GL with the choldcare decision. Its a toughie. Hope the BF sorts itself out... I have heard a few people saying same thing around this time and up... Probably another "fase"....
) - so anything past that points been great. I'm still offering, but no go. I'll just keep expressing as much as I can and at this stage as I've not been getting much, I'll just give it to him for his bed bottle.
...started to look into FDC as well. But as I had to let the centres know by today and after talking it over and weighing the pros and cons of all 3 options, we decided to go with the child care centre with the Thursday Friday available. Cam starts on the 16th April - Thursday week 
- it makes me sad that my maternity leave days are coming to an end and that I'll have to leave him with others (even if its only for 3 days a week). But I know he will be fine and probably have so much fun playing with the other kiddies. We will pop in there for a little play and complete forms next week.
haha! Yeah, the government is soooooo freakin slow and backward, and they've JUST put the prices up on the certificate stuff. bah! I'll have to go back to my dad's name for now, even tho I've practically disowned him. And even tho I don't want one, you have to have a surname, apparently... Good luck with the childcare centre. I hope it turns out to be a great thing for all of you. I thought about FDC too, but I'm just a bit hesitant still. DP said No F'ing Way. That's pretty strong words for him, so CCC it is! 
... But i could take over this thread with my whinging so i wont... I really hope that u can work with Ds and get him and yourself some sleep... I have run out of idea for you sorry... I guess the best person to know your DS is you and your DP... it might take a while but at least you know it was done your way... 
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