Babies Born May 2006 #47

[shereejoy]

Sorry yes it is her 30th Birthday, forgot to mention that. There is alot of history with me and my family and I am sick of chasing them and they never come to see me so that is in the back of my mind. I knew my emotions were taking over though, hence why I asked for advice - THANKS GIRLS. See realistically in the back of my mind I am being spitful too cause I know for a fact Nik won't come and see my newborn, nor does she ever come to any special occasions (like Lachlan's birthday) and previously I have made every effort to be at all of her special occasions, but of recent years I have put a stop to it as I am sick of being used. See I just wish that the bubs hadn't been born yet either (spiteful I know), cause then it will look like I am yet again doing something for Nik. Sorry I told you there was history and lots of it, I could go on 4eva. To get from Warrick to Brisbane I will have to hire a car, then I don't know my way around, all these things by myself with Lachlan just scares me too. But I guess somehow, someway I will have to find a way to go, just wish Wade was with me!!!!

[widdly]

sheree - the situation with your sisters not ever making an effort to come and see you sounds so familiar, my mums family have very rarely come over here to visit us, its always us going over to them even when we cant afford it etc. I think some people are just 'takers' and some are 'givers', its unfair but it is so common in friendships and relationships! If i were you i wouln't go. My goodness you are going to be very pregnant, you have an extremely energetic toddler, you wont have anyone to help you, you dont know your way around, if i were your sister i would certainly understand your not going. I think its sad that you feel they would be upset at you for not attending the party, there will be plenty more parties in the future where you wont be pregnant or have young toddlers that you will be ablet o attend much more easily. If you do go can you see yourself being able to relax and enjoy everyones company anyway?? theres not much point going all that way if you are just going to be exhausted, frustrated and too busy with Lachlan to be able to enjoy yourself. Sorry you have found yourself in theis predicament, hope you dont ofence to anything i have posted here, i seemed to have had a bit of a rant myself

tania - hope the runs dont continue for you. great tht you got a better nights sleep last night. Enjoy after work drinks

Had fun at playgroup today, Archie wouldn't go to sleep afterwards though, so i let him play out the back for a couple of hours, all of the sudden he just starting bawling and couldn't be consoled, he had somehow fallen over and whacked his elbow on something, there is quite a decent lump poor thing. Just put him down for rest, he went straight to the land of nod.

Dont know if i can go through with childcare again Im still just not ready to cut the umbilical cord yet, him being in cc would make my study easier as i would be able to regularly volunteer in a childcare centre and get info for my assignments, but i can still study, just need to find a flexible centre that will let me come in whenever i get the chance. Its weird that i feel there is so much pressure to put him into care, its like people seem to think that if he doesn't attend cc he will be disadvantaged in some way....

[~shazz~]

evening all

Tania ~ i'm here for you too remember that ok and nope not doing IVF again we had 2 attempts fell pg both times first one i MC and 2nd is our bundle of joy Ryan

sheree ~ if you went from warwick to brissie you would probably go straight past me and me i wouldn't chase anyone i know whwere your coming from i've been the chaser for years i would much prefer to be the chasee

well i have been studying for over 12 hours today and OMG i'm drained and i'm only 1/4 the way through the first assigments holy crap

[shereejoy]

Gosh and now i will be in trouble for not coming to see you now Shazz will I? Hehe.

I spoke to my dad tonight about it and I said to him "they are making me feel like I making a drama out of it" and he said no you are not! Surely you can get better answers out of them he said. Like when Mel said it is my call if Lachlan comes or not and then Nik answers a straight no answer to my question of askign if her children are going or not and then I say well you have made my decision clear now, I guess I can't come and she says Ohhhhh. I mean seriously they don't care nor want to care. They are use to the Brisbane lifestyle and it is so alien to me. If I was to drive from Warrick to Brisbane, I wouldn't know my way, but would try. I would have to hire a car and not sure if they hire car seats as well with it. Will have to find out. Then I found out tonight, Mum and Dad will be there, so atleast that makes me feel better about taking Lachlan, now it is a case of where do I stay??? Mum and Dad will be sleeping in Nik's lounge room, and we normally stay there, so will have to ask Mel if I can stay there!

So I guess I will now go to the Wedding in Bundaberg for the weekend of the 12th april, then stay for the rest of the week, fly onto toowoomba, wade's sister will pick me up and take me to warrick for 5 days then I will hire a car and drive onto Brisbane and then fly from Brisbane to Emerald at the end of my stay.

I guess I have to be thankful that I don't have another bub and I am better doing this while their aint two, but gee am i gonna be tired.

I totally respect everything you said Elissa, I totally agree, and if I was going to be stubborn like I normally am, I would do exactly what you said, just at this point in time with knowing mum and dad will be there (they can help me) and the fact that my sisters always make me look like the bad guy and I shouldn't stoop to their level - I WILL GO..... I think!!!! hehe

Still trying to work it all out really with regards to car seats for each occasion.

Just to give you a little more idea of the way my sister treats me at times, esp Nik (mel is normally pretty good - but with them both living in Brisbane sense they talk and gang up on me at times). On my visit to Niks in Brissy in December when I went there she told me that I have changed and Mel thinks the same! What tha...... Dad even agreed tonight if anyone has changed it is them. Dad even said Mel will get a big wake up call one of these days when she has kids, she just has no idea that you have to make plans and organise yourself esp seeing as I travel alone these days and like you said Elissa I am pregnant too! Her time will come.....

There is so much more history then that but I think me pointing out these little things gives you all a rough idea.

Anyway changing the subject it was 36 degrees here at 5.30pm this arvo, I would hate to think what it reached thru the day.

Sorry for the big vent lately and thanking you so much to you all for helping me and contributing some ideas, I really appreciate it. Love ya's

[~shazz~]

Nah sheree i would hold it against you lol

nite i 'm putting the books away and going to bed pity they didn't give marks on hours put in

[shereejoy]

Be kind to yourself Shazz. I was the same as you put in soooo many hours and didn't feel like I was getting anywhere......

[pinkfrog]

sheree - with the carseat you can hire one when you hire the car. We did that when we went to melbourne. Otherwise take it with you on the plane. I don't know who you are flying with but some don't include any kids stuff as the baggage allowance. Depends how much stuff you are already taking and if there will be someone to help you get on and off the plane at each end. I completely understand about the whole family dramas. I have sisters and its always all about them, don't think they will ever change.