Babies Born May 2007 #11

[Shellbelle]

Ooo, lucky you Lulu!!! I love getting fluffy mail!! All mine are sloshing around the machine also!! Have had 1 sposie in the house and used it last night so have been clothing a lot!! Dh and I are goi ng out tonight (with Angus, minus the girls!!) We are going to the movies to the premiere of National Treasure book of secrets I think it is called!! Angus has to come cause it starts at 6.30pm so won't have had boob yet, so hopefully he will sleep for most of it!!

Sarah, you are good having MIL everyday!! Allll my in-laws are in Bris so I am very very lucky!!!

Anyway, better go get the girls pj's and stuff ready, they are off to grandmas so are very excited!!

[Sair]

Hehehe, I know it sounds scarey but Bev is a treasure of a MIL, I do get days off when she works nightshift and I actually get lonely when she doesn't come. A lot of it I guess is that her other sons wife won't have Bev over without a phone call first and essentially treats the family like crap the stupid witch, I feel like trying to make up for the lack of caring from the sil. Anyway a very nasty situation and woman and I just get angry thinking about it. I have half a mind to call up the stupid hag and give her a piece of my mind but I know things will just get worse.

Lulu!! Fluffy mail!!! I ordered mine express post yesterday and it didn't arrive today I am going to get some ties and a couple of pilchers tomorrow and start using some of my terry flats and reduce the amount of sposies I go through until I can build up a stash of mcn. How many nappies do you need for 2 children? Is it 24 x the amount of children or can you get away with less?

Michelle, Lucky you!! A night at the movies!!! I loved the first National Treasure, I look forward to when this one comes out on dvd and I will hire the both out. Juz hasn't seen the first one yet. Let us know how it is!!

Alright, while Noah is happy in the JJ I might take some more housework if I can, I have so much to do although mil did my kitchen, hung the washing and swept the ceiling of my cobwebs hehehe, see it isn't that bad having a mil over every day

Be back later!!!

[Shellbelle]

Sarah, true, when my Mum comes to visit she slways does housework for me!! Last time she was over she did the toyroom which was a mammoth job!! We couldn't even walk in there (my girls have loootttt of toys!!) So yeah, I agree, can be beneficial!!!! National Treasure was reallly good! Angus was an angel and slept for most of it so that was good. But def get it out, Nicholas Cage does a really good job!

As far as nappies go, I think last count I have about 20 MCN's. I wash every 2-3 days, but I only have 1 night nappy so mostly still use a sposie at night. Also when we go out I tend to use sposies also, am yet to be adventurous and take cloth out with me!!

Anywa, attempting to do my christmas shopping today!!! I have been putting it off cause we only hav shopping centres here, and they have all been bedlem. No parks etc etc. Makes it so much harder with kids, might leave the girls at Mums and take the carrier for Angus. I got an ergo carrier and am really impressed with it. It is easy to put on and Angus likes it so is good for quick trips to the shop without etting the prm out.

Have a nice day evryone!!!

[Ashlee]

Shell, interested in buying a night nappy? I have a WC and a Sandman...PM me if you are interested, Blake won't sleep with a night nappy on (I don't know why he just won't) so I'm selling mine. They've only been worn a few times, and look the same as when I bought them

Just an update on me girls, you're all gonig to think I'm an absolute fruitcake but I'm back at home, trying to sort mine and DH's life out. We both came to the realisation that Blake needs us together, the hositility between us was ridiculous and we both need to change. 1 night in and so far so good - he is even in charge of the money now which is a HUGE weight off my shoulders, the money issues were a huge factor in the split and my mental state, but now I don't have to worry about them, and nothing except the mobile bill is in my name anyway, it will be a huge burden lifted.

I'm looking for work, and childcare to go with it (had an FDC mum lined up 2 seconds from mum's but that won't work now obviously), fingers crossed I find something soon. I was going to go FT if I was single but now I can go bak to my original plan of part time, yay!

Ok sorry selfishness OVER.

[Beach Mama]

Not selfish hun, and you are not a fruitcake - you are doing what you think is best for your boy. Just stick to your guns though and realise that yes its important for Blake for you guys to be together - that is best case scenario- however if you aren't happy and are not going to get what you need in the relationship eventualy somethings gotta give. I dont want to be a downer - I just have been through some pretty hairy times while I was pg with Iz, and know that I would rather DH and I be happy separated than miserable together IYKWIM. Obviouly we were able to work it all our and I really hope things work out for you both hunny.

[Sair]

Michelle, glad you enjoyed the movie! Angus is such a good boy!!! 20 is going to be a steep collection I think eekk!! Still waiting for my GK which I ordered on Tues and paid with paypal and chose express post, they got posted yesterday apparently and they didn't make todays post....

Ash, I really hope everything works out for you and DH, it isn't an easy step to try and patch up these things and far from selfish. Work will be a really good thing as well for more reasons than getting out of the one dimensionality as a SAHM. You will have the opportunity to secure a little nest egg for emergencies or a fun holiday!!!

Hope everyone is doing well, Noah is cracking it already and I need a shower. Talk to you all soon!!!

[LuluHB]

Ash - I agree 100% with Tan. I think its fantastic you and DH are trying to work it out and I wish you all the luck in the world. BUT your mental and emotional state is just as important (maybe more so) than Blake's - if his mummy's not happy, he'll pick up on it, so make sure you're happy. Looking after yourself is not selfishness, its being a good mummy! I really hope you guys can work it out. And if Shell isn't interested in your WC nappy, I might be. From everything I've heard, they're a great night nappy but so blo*dy expensive I think DH would do his nut completely if I went and bought a brand new one after all the others I've just bought!

Michelle - glad the movie was good and what a good little man Angus was for sleeping the whole time! We're going to carols by candlelight tonight (DH's dad is in the choir) so I'll have to tell Izzy she has to be as good as Angus! Good luck with your shopping - I usually love Christmas shopping but this year with Izzy and pregnancy its really been a pain. And that's a gorgeous photo of Angus and your girls - you're a very lucky mummy.

Sarah - that is good that your MIL is so much help. I think I've made it hard for myself over the years by not letting anyone help me do anything (very stupid I know) cos now even my Mum won't offer to do anything (I know she would do anything I asked her to do, I just can't bring myself to ask. Stupid stubborn cow that I am. I now have 22 MCNs (no, I have no idea how that happened!!) although a couple of them really aren't good on Izzy. I think you need more for a newborn and I've probably got a couple too many for Iz (shhh) so we'll see how it goes.

Well, Iz has finally gone down after a very grumpy morning so I'm off to make some white chocolate and macadamia cookies to take tonight with us - that's if DH doesn't eat them all first!!

[Ashlee]

Lulu it's lime green in colour and I'm selling it for $25 including postage, whoever gets in first it's sold, I really need the extra cash right now.

Blake won't sleep. He's always had issues in this house but he;'s been awake almost 4 hours which is just ridiculous...He isn't really grumpy which is a bonus but I would like to have some sort of break!!!

[LuluHB]

Ash - I'll definitely have it, provided Michelle doesn't want it. You offered it to her first and I'd hate to get it just cos I had a bit more time on my hands today!! And I don't know what it is about sleeps today - Izzy was up for hours this morning, down for 30 minutes and then up for hours and hours again.

[Sair]

Noah started commando crawling!!!!!!!! He started last night, I am so stoked!!!

[Beach Mama]

Yay for Noah!! What a clever boy! Told ya it would be quick after going backwards! Now for baby proofing the house hey!

[Shellbelle]

Lulu, go for it, I have a wc lime night nappy!! Will PM Ash about the sandman though!! Hope your carols go well, the girls wanted to go this year but we never made it!! I told eldest DD she can watch it on TV (mean mummy hey!!) Thanks, I know I am a very lucky Mummy, all my kids are so well behaved and pretty cute haha!!

Sarah, yay for Noah crawling. Look out now he will be into everything!!! trust me when I say it won't take long to build up your stash. I just brought a few here and there and whammo suddenly I have lots haha!!! I just reg browse through all the nappy sites and look out for specials etc. Also lucky enough to have Sarah from the nappy bucket here in Townsville if I need to pick her brain!! Also you should check out the nappy threads on ere cause the girls often have nappies they swap or sell between themselves and are a great bunch!!! Except the thread moves so quick it can be hard to keep up!!

Tan, have you got your car sorted yet?? Did all the insurance and stuff go through?? WHat a hassle right at xmas hey!!

Had a pretty good day shopping, got lots done, but was so hard with Angus in tow. My gf came with me also with her 8week old, lucky I have the phil & teds so we chucked them in that and could speed around with one pram!! Got some funny looks though, Angus the big fat 6mth old and little girl 2 mth old, think people were trying to work out if they were twins and I must have overfed Angus and his poor sister missed out!!! Am thinking I might be brave and go again today, will see if this coffee gives me some spark!!!

Have a nice day everyone!!!!!

[Ashlee]

WHOO HOO GO NOAH!!! Won't be long now till you'll have to have eyes on him 24/7, gosh it only gets harder LOL

Lulu-Yep Shell PM'ed me so the WC is all yours if you'd like it? Just PM me and we can get it sorted, you can leave it till after Chrissy if you would like, I'm not really fussed. I can take a pic on my phone and MMS it to you, I left my digi cam at mum's so can't get one on the PC and god only knows where my USB cable is for my phone (I'm notorious for losing and forgetting things).

Blake had his best night in a while, down at 7:30, up at 10:30, down till 4 and up for the day at 6:20 (ish, my sis came up and changed his nappy cos he was a stinker while I was still asleep hehe).

4 MORE ADULT SLEEPS GIRLS!!! I wonder how many sleep for the bubbas? LOL In Blake's case, many.

ETA: Happy 8 Months to my little man! Wow, 8 months, sounds soooooo big!

[Kristen]

Hmmmm, I'm sorry girls, I know I don't do this often but I need to have a vent as I've just spent the morning having a cry to myself and I need to get it out!

I'm still worried about Mia's development. The only thing she's doing that she's supposed to be doing at her age is sitting. She doesn't roll (well, she's only done it a handful of times, but normally not on purpose) and just lies there. She will twist her body around if she's not facing the tv or something and she's on the floor and wants to look, but never actually rolls over to look at it. She has manjor tanties when I give her tummy time (which is 70-80% of the time she's awake!!) and I often have to put her on her back or put her in her play gym or hold her, to keep her happy. She hates being on her stomach and whilst she can weight bear on her arms, she has no concept of leaning on one arm to reach for a toy. Instead she just does her 'beached whale' impression and then reaches out for a toy. In fact, her tummy time skills now that I think about it really haven't improved at all for the last couple of months besides her rolling a few times. She's still at the same stage she was then.

She likes sitting and will happily do that if we put her there, and she always reaches out for things that are on a table etc in front of us if we have her on our laps.

Most of the time though if we go anywhere or do anything she'll just sit there. She has no desire to learn and explore - she'd much rather play with her own hands than try and grab for something that is just out of reach. If she can't get it, she gives up or has a whinge.

On the one hand, I'm sick of beating myself up about this all of the time and feeling like I've not done something I should have and crying about it all the time. On the other hand, I sit there and tell myself I'm being silly and that I can't help her personality and I should just let her go. I can't tell you how sick I am of hearing "Oh you're so lucky - once they're on the move you have to watch them all the time, you don't know how great it is with her just to lie there" - honestly, I want to scream. My sense of worrying about her being normal in her development does not correlate to the inconvenience of having to watch your child - I do that now!! I'd rather run after her than have to worry all the time because both you and your baby are miserable most of the time!

I just don't know what to do... every day that passes with her not doing improving just makes me more miserable. I've tried everything my MCHN has suggested and she either doesn't like it or doesn't respond. I just want her to be happy and normal!!

[Danni]

Kristen, I honeslty believe you have nothing to worry about. Mason is 4 whole weeks older than Mia and he doesnt roll either! He HATES tummy time, and wont even stay there for 2 seconds these days. He will not get up on all fours or anything alike.

Some babies are just different babe. Plus Mason only started sitting last week!

I am sure Mia will learn to do things in her own time.

[Shellbelle]

Kristen, I agree, I think Mia is doing fine. Angus is a very proficient roller, but still can't sit on his own. My friend has a bub who is 3 days younger than Angus and he sounds the same as Mia. She has just actually taken him to a paed for a review cause her mchn told her there was something wrong with him. The paed seen him yesterday and actually said he is just lazy and will do thnigs when he wants to! If it was me though, I would prob get a referral and see a paediatrician for a check-up just in case. They are the experts and I would trust what a paed says over anyone. No one knows your baby like you do, and I think for peace of mind I would get her checked! Just my opinion, but to save you worrying and stressing I think it might be worth it! Good Luck

[Ashlee]

I agree Kristen, a paed visit definitely wouldn't hurt, but I think she sounds perfectly normal (probably not what you want to hear). Blake is behind in speech etc but physically is advanced/on cue, considering he was 4 weeks early. Babies develop at different rates and I know you're aware of this, so beating yourself up about it is definitely not going to help at all.
Mia sounds like such a wonderful little girl, if she has no desire to roll or crawl that might just be her way of doing things. As Danni said, Mason is older and is just sitting now, I've seen him in action and he's quite content to lay back and play with his toys, squeal with delight etc. Blake has only just started to be vocal, but doesn't make any sounds like dada or anything, which I know Mia does. I was worried, but I figure he's learning other things phsyically to make up for it. Alot of babies that take a bit longer to crawl usually walk first, maybe she's just building up to that instead of crawling?
Sorry to ramble but I feel what you're going through - all our bubs are totally different, not one is on the same level and I think that's the great thing about them - they are all diverse and we're all having milestones at different times. Imagine how boring the thread would be if they all did things on the same day - no one could get excited for anyone else lol
Chin up sweetie, she will do things when she's ready, I promise

[Kristen]

Argh, thanks guys!! Sorry to be such a downer!!! I know and agree with everything that everyone has said (and that's the frustrating thing) - the problem is taking my own (and your!) advice!! LOL

Danni - thanks hon, nice to know Mia's not the only one that hates it!! My MCHN tried to make me thinkit was because I didn't do it enough (WTF? If she's not being fed or having her nappy changed I put her on the floor so I couldn't understand that?!?) but I honestly just think it's her!

Shell/Ash - you're right, maybe a paed visit would just set my mind at ease more? I don't know! Thank you though!!