Blessedmum thanks for the advice. May head to the chemist if things don't get better to get what you or hubba suggested, as the crying hasn't improved at all. I'm like you & am trying to find the time to write my Birth Story while it's still fresh!
Congrats QueenMab on the birth of your baby. Are you still having problems with getting your little boy to sleep? Anything been working so far?!?!
Sleep issues.... YES!!!! My little boy was really good when we 1st brought him home... never slept for less than 2 hours at a time (usually more). But now he is waking up every 20 mins most of the time. He cries & cries which is really hard to settle most of the time. I feel like he's sleeping less & less no matter how hard I try to get him to sleep! I try not to keep him up for longer than 1 - 1.5 hours so he doesn't get over tired, but sometimes it takes hours for us to settle him to sleep anyway... & then by the time he gets to sleep he's up again in like 10 mins or so without fail!!!!!!! LOL my god I love him to bits but I really want him to get more sleep! It can't be good for him the poor little thing.
And yes with feeding my boy was such a little milk monster (& still is). He was on the breast like all the time at the hospital, which was quite sore until my milk came in which happened on the 3rd day! So Ella I know exactly how you feel, it's never ending! They still could use a break lol. Apparently, at 2 weeks my little man was 300g higher than his birth weight!!!! (And you're only supposed to be at birth weight). Hmmm so I was told to cut right back on feeding... Yeah RIGHT!!! Someone's not a Mum lol. They said to space it out to 4 hours apart, like that was going to happen! My little one cries his little heart out when he's hungry, & I can't leave him like that forever! I believe in demand feeding, but I try not to feed too often so he doesn't get too much wind, & every time he's hungry I don't feed him right away if it's been to short between feeds, so we've cut back a little bit. I really can't stand the pediatrician I went to when i was worried about his constant crying... they just blamed it on overeating, which I have proven is not the problem, so we're sorta back at square one. I guess it must be a baby thing, but I certainly won't be going back to see that doctor (I don't believe in strict scheduling with newborns & I'm not going to have my milk supply dwindle because I'm not feeding bub when he's hungry.)
Anyone finding when their baby is crying they seem to look like they have this strong urge for sucking????? It drives my little one CRAZY sometimes (& no it's not hunger, as I try feeding). Anyone using dummies & breastfeeding????? How's that going? I'm really going to try my best not to, as I'm breastfeeding it's what I prefer, & I just really don't like the idea of my baby with a dummy in his mouth - bad habit, as apparently they can't live without it once they get it? Hmm but sometimes I think my god that would save my sanity!! Lol but we're battling through & not giving in
I know how you feel Heidi. It takes FOREVER to go anywhere lol, certainly don't have the freedom we used to! Whenever I have taken Damian out... it's not an easy experience AT ALL!! He won't sleep anywhere but in his hammock... so our only hope is taking him out when he is in a deep sleep, but when he wakes up... Oh Boy!! Impossible to settle. For some reason he gets very cranky if we're out of the house & also if we have visitors... so we're trying to stay put for a while. I have a Early Days of Parenting Class with ABA tomorrow... I don't even know if I'll be able to go there because he won't stop crying if he's not out of it by the time we have to leave. The only way we get him in the car at all is if he is asleep!!! LOL my boy certainly knows how to cry, & does it often!!!!
Ahh, It's hard work but I just LOVE being a Mummy!!
Danni, sorry to hear your having a hard time with Damian crying. I use dummies and only breastfeed. I have had no trouble with either girls feeding. Macey only seems to want her dummy when she has wind. It relaxes her which helps the wind pass. Amelia still has her dummy but only for sleeping at night and normally within 10 minutes of falling alseep she spits it out. I am not saying you should use a dummy, I thought I would just share how it works for me. I also demand feed, I find that routines don't really work when they are growing so quickly and just as you start a pattern things change. Sometimes macey feeds every couple of hours and sometimes it can be nearly 5 hours between feeds. She is happy so that is what matters. Oh and your picture in your ticker is so cute. Damian has very dark hair like Macey, but hers is all at the back of her head.
Heidi, I read an article on sunday in the magazine that comes with the paper about breastfeeding and it said that breastfeeding usually takes about 6 weeks to learn 1st time around so if your having a few troubles now it is good that your getting help. Have fun camping.
Kat, There is still 4 weeks till Christmas and alot can happen in that time. I will send some christmas wishes your Flynn's way that he will be home for Santa.
AFM, I did my first outing with just me and the girls on Saturday and it went well. Yesterday was DH last day of paternity leave so we went shopping to get as many christmas presents as possible. Thankfully I only have a few to go and will get them done when Amelia is at daycare. I have been checking out all the Santa's to see where to have their photo taken but I want to wait till macey is a bit bigger. I found a santa with a real beard so hopefully he is still there on the day I choose.
Macey is still a dream baby. Always content, does not cry, feeds well. I finally posted my birth story. I typed it up in word so I could do bits at a time. If you want to read it the link is next to macey's birthdate in my sig.
Last edited by Kazzo; November 30th, 2010 at 12:02 PM.
: more to add for Danni.
Hope everyone is doing ok. Just a quick one from me.
We're just about to leave to go away in our new little caravan for a few days! Leo is feeding and sleeping really well, but me and both the kids have the flu so its all a bit gross here lol.
Thanks for the compliment Blessedmum, he's soo adorable! And your little Macey looks cute too thanks for sharing your experience with dummies, I guess I'm just scared he'll want it all the time and get addicted to it and become worse without it. It's given me something to consider what you've said.
It probably sounded worse than what it is, it just gets hard sometimes. We do have our days, some days are much better than others. I am very grateful that he is a very good night sleeper which is soo good, it's just during the day that's hard sometimes. And I'm also really relieved breastfeeding is going so well and he's a great feeder. I can't believe how quickly time is going in a way.. Damian is already over 3 weeks old!
Hope everyone is well and have fun on your trip Ella. Where are you going? I'd soo love to get out of the house some day soon!
oh Ella you are braver than me I am umming and arring about going this weekend because it is going to rain.
the community nurse came yesterday instead of today and said attachment is fine and to try a nipple sheild on the right breast. I just need to make more milk picked up some fengugreek and will try that otherwise she said to consider prescription medication next week if no increase.
sorry I havent been on, its been a while and life has been really busy..
Peter is doing well.. He eats around every 2 to 3 hours, honestly he eats when he crys for it.. lol He is a good boy nothing like what I went through with DD when she was a baby. Im praying he stays like this..
DD has been getting better but I have noticed she reverts back after she has had her weekly sleepover at my parents house..
DH is driving me nuts.. Im not sure if I have mentioned before to ladies that he has Schizophrenia. He hasnt been taking the correct amount of medication, the moods are FANTASTIC!! I have managed to get him taking the right amount again but just working on getting new therapist. I want one that can see both of us, his currect dr doesnt seem to be listening and I really dont have time to waste on him (dr that is).
Our problem is Im not getting any support from him, I tend to ask him to do something and end up doing it all myself. Im over having to scream, jump up and down and arguing over him doing things for his kids. This morning I asked him to get up and get DD her breakfast as I was doing my grocerys online, he didnt want to get up and said cant you do it... I always get up every morning for the last 3 years and half years for DD!!! I called him a d..head this morning and a sh..ty dad and he told me I was a bad mum. I guess its my fault for calling him names but I never stop, I do so much for him, the kids, the house and for him to even think that... burns... I just blew up.. I havent been able to calm down since, Im really moody now and snappy.. add late nights and early mornings and wakes ups to the mix...
My mil might be sick but she is back to her old tricks.. Putting her daughter in laws down and prasing her sons.. I would just want to say to her... 'where were your sons when you were sick???' She was going on and on about how hard her sons work.. I just about jumped out of my skin, but kept my mouth shut.. Up until Peter came along I worked full time, I was pregnant, had a 3 year old that basically I look after on my own, and I run the whole house from the finances to the cleaning the toilets! What gives her the right to say that to me!!!
I was told that my PND is there again and I need to see my doctor but I dont think its PND I think its more stress and me getting run down.. Last time I wouldnt leave the house, I have been making a point of getting out and about when its just me and the baby.. Dont think I could manage DD and DS on my own just yet..
sorry for the me post but I just needed to get it all out and now I can feel my heart racing.. Its just all a little too much at the moment..
Oh Eng, you sure do sound stressed. Sounds like your DH needs reminding that there are only 2 kids in the house hold and he needs to start been the man again and take on some of the responsibility of raising your children. I hope you find a new therapist soon that can help and that in he mean time your DH picks up his game a little.
I guess your DD spending time at your parents means she gets all the attention and then when she comes home she has to readjust. It is good to hear she is getting more settled with her baby brother most of the time though.
Hopefully your venting here has released some of the stress for you (even if it is just a little).
Hello to everyone else out there. I hope you are all doing well.
Kat, I am always thinking of you and Flynn, hoping he is continuing to do well.
We are doing well. I am just at a loss as to what to get Macey for Christmas. We don't need any toys or clothes and with her Christening in March I know I will get lots of keepsakes then. I was thinking maybe just keep money aside for the end of summer sales and buy clothes that will fit her next summer. I don't know.
Eng it is very difficult to live with a person with Schizophrenia and I feel for you. Does his medication need reviewing? My cousin does not always like the dose that she is on as she feels detached and descides to come of the medication, unfortunately it ends up with her going of the rails..luckliy she has certain triggers before a really bad episode and calling me is one of them so we can get her on track again a lot quicker now. Change of seasons also affects her.
My ex-husband was on antidepressants and I used to call them my happy pills because when he took them they made me much happier
Isabelle slept for 6 hours last night I woke up in a panic when I realised it was daylight and I had not feed her. Hopefully she will sleep OK tonight as well as we are camping and there are a lot of people going to be there.
Kat I hope Flynn is doing Ok. It is a very stressfull time for you. My nephew was born at 29 weeks and was in NIC for 3 months before coming home. He is now nearly 17 years old.
Blessedmum I know what you mean about what to get them for Christmas, we have been given so much clothes and toys (new and 2nd hand) for her that she does not need anything till she is a size 2 LOL. I thought about ski/winter gear but my good friend is getting her some in Canada when they go at xmas (they dont have children and have offered to purchase her ski gear so I am not going to say no)
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Heidi where do u get the fengugreek from??? I want to try to build up my supply and am willing to try anything.
Hope the camping goes well.
Blessedmum I am having the same issues thinking of what to get for Flynn its hard to think of things for a baby.
Eng I hope things get better for u hunni. I am battling PND and that hard enough and I am about to start meds so I am hoping it goes well. My DH is useless with helping around the house. He expects me to be at the hospital all day and look after our 5yr old DD AND cook and clean!!! Well he learnt the hard way to back the F off and not hound me for everything when I lost it and refused to do anything at all!!! I am not a miracle worker and atm Flynn needs me more!!!
AFM and Flynn
I am doing ok as I said about to start on meds for my PND and I am hoping it goes well and I can still express my milk so thats good news
Heres to a great day for Flynn !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
He has been finishing some of his bottles and been waking for feeds and looking for a bottle so I managed to get the doctor to listen to me and we can offer bottles at all feeds, he can have full bottles every second feed and half for the others (if he wakes for the others) and I am happy with that as he will get used to it and then I might be able to look at getting him home!!!!
I still highly doubt it will be before xmas but its a start anyway
we survived our overnight camping. Isabelle did better than me LOL. The drive was further than I thought and the road was in bad shape from all the rain, we camped halfway between the toilets and the communal tarps of our group, but it was a lot further walking than i have been doing so was absolutely exhausted and very sore by the time I went to bed. Luckly our friends where very supportive and kept reminding my partner that i could not help him with anything and they helped set up our camper and pack it up again.
I got the fengugreek capsules from the chemist - I actually leaked some milk this morning when I got up and walked to the toilet so perhaps they are working.
A friend worked on some babies the other day with tongue tie at the dental hospital and she suggested perhaps isabelle might be also - I have also been thinking that as well so might get her looked at as that would also be affecting her breast feeding
Kat- so glad Flynn is doing well. I've been thinking of you lots and sending big prayers that you get a suprise Christmas present and get to have your little one home for chrissy.
Eng- I can really totally relate. DF is on a couple of different tablets for what is still undiagnosed but is probably bipolar. We have good times and not so good times, but I can totally understand that when times aren't good it can make a huge impact on your life and mood. You're doing an amazing job and you're not a bad Mum at all!
AFM- Well we had fun camping, caught 12 shovel nose sharks lol can't eat them though so a little dissapointing! It rained the whole time, me and both boys had the flu pretty badly and Orlando was constipated (finally did a poo the day we got back after not doing one for 9 days, so he was in a foul mood for most of the camping trip). But we did have fun at some point lol.
I'm not really coping well today, DF's work made him go back today a full week earlier than he was meant to. Leonardo is cluster feeding and the house is a brothel. Also our huge upright freezer's seal broke and all the meat and everything in there is off and I have to defrost the whole thing cause it's leaking all over the floor...
The boys have woken up at 3:30am the last 3 night in a row and not gone back to sleep till 10am. Plus I had forgotten how hard it can be being at home alone with a tiny one. Especially when you have no car- mines still broken and will be a while before we can fix it.
Sorry boo hoo post but just feeling a little lonely and overwhelmed...
glad your camping trip went well Ella. Not good that DF had to go back to work early.
My partners work where also funny about him having leave for the baby and in the end he has been off for nearly 3 weeks - one week to look after me and Isabelle, 3 days last week sick with flu/cold, and now this week 3 days off as compasionate leave as his grandfather died and we need to travel to Albury tommorrow for the funeral.
I started on the prescription medication today to see if it will help with bringing on more milk. I went to the mothers group on Monday and the nurse thought Isabelle might have slight tongue tie so my friend is going to arrange a consultation for with one of the specialist at her work to confirm.
Blessedmum - christmas gifts are quite hard for babies I reckon! For little Damian we are giving him Toys, a book with big colourful pictures, a 1st Christmas laminated poem as a keepsake, and a keepsake gift (I'm working on it lol). Have no idea what to put in his stocking though lol. Sorry I'm not much help lol it's not easy! How are your two girls? Is amelia still coping really well with the new addition and how much does macey sleep on average in a day? And how long is she usually up for at a time?
Eng - sorry to hear things haven't been all fun and games on your end. Hmm I don't know how you are putting up with your dh - I wouldn't! Hopefully you taking a stance will wake him up. It's really not fair on you, you sound like you have waaay too much on your plate! Wow I don't know how you do it. It doesn't sound like pnd to me either. You just need a more supportive husband and mil!!! I hope things get better for you.
Ella - wow sounds like you've had a crazy couple of days!! Each day is different with my boy.. We definately have our days! Ahhh cluster feeding.. When Damian goes through those days I could swear my nipples are going to fall off lol.. Ah, the joys. Hope this passes for you soon. Does your little one usually sleep well day and night?
Kat - hope Flynn is doing well and getting better everyday. My thoughts are with you and I hope you get your little bundle home for Christmas!
Last edited by *Danni*; December 7th, 2010 at 01:48 PM.
Danni, we are going good. Amelia is still a very proud big sister. She is so great around Macey. The only time she gets a bit funny is just before bed if I am feeding Macey. She likes to cuddle up with me. Macey is going wonderful too. I have been really lucky to have 2 fantastic girls. With Macey sleeping, it it usually 3.5-4 hours at a time during the day. At night she has started sleeping 4-5 hours. Last night was great, I feed her at 9pm, she woke at 2am for a feed and then woke at 7:30am. It would be lovely everynight. She seems to have awake periods in the afternoon where she is awake for about an hour or so. I never let her fall alseep while feeding or straight after a feed. I did this with Amelia. The reason I do it is so that I will never have the trouble of her only sleeping after a feed when she gets older. How is damian's crying going, is he still windy. I have stopped drinking tea & coffee and this has made a huge difference for Macey. I miss my Tea but it will only be for a few months.
Heidi, It is lovely to hear you had some good support at your camping night. I hope that you get some answers for Isabelle soon.
Eng, How are you going now? Any progress with your DH around the house and with the kids?
Ella, hope you and your boys are getting better.
Kat, always thinking of you and Flynn.
AFM, Still going wonderful here. I can't believe hw quick the past 3.5 weeks have gone, DH went back to work the weekend after Macey was born and I thought it would make the time drag been at home during the week with the girls but boy was I wrong. We have Amelia's daycare Christmas party tonight. I can't wait to see the little play they have planned. I bet there will be alot of crying kids in it. I have decided to get Macey a few little toys and an outfit or two and put money aside for buying clothes in the sales in bigger sizes. Oh and my mums Christmas present for the girls arrived on Monday much to DH despair. It is a big wooden cubby, swing, slipperydip, monkeybar, sandpit play station. But it comes unassembled. DH is going to have so much fun putting it together. We found a brilliant website that had the playsets for remarkable prices. We got a $2,500 for $1,000. Gosh how good is the feeling when you get a great bargain.
Long time no chat, Aidan has been keeping me very busy! And with Christmas around the corner I have been running around like a Mad Woman. I have posted up my Birth Storyhttps://www.bellybelly.com.au/forums...an-150121.html Hope you can all read it so you can share my experience
I am hearing you on the midnight wake periods and the snack feeding and clingyness i.e not sleeping unless on Mummy or Daddy's chest. Hummm...frustrating to say the least but from what I have been told it is just a phase. They have just begun to realise who Mum and Dad are and they want to stay close as a comfort thing.
Ahh speaking of which...Aidan is squaking at me - gotta go and feed.
Hope you are all having a good week and all the bubba's are being adorable and good for their Mummies!!
Don't have time to reply to all. Just put big roast dinner in the oven and have Leo on my chest and Orlando playing trucks next to me lol.
Blondie- ouch!!! I had cracks and bleeding on both nipples with Orlando. Maybe just check he is attaching properly as that can cause it but with me it just happened even though he was attaching well. The best thing you can do for it is squeeze a little breastmilk out after you finish feeding and wipe it over the nipple area. Make sure you give it a minute to dry. Also I got told by the midwife that did my home visit that sun is great for helping heal it. About 15 minutes topless sunbaking whenever you can manage it.
AFM- boys are good. Had to buy an aspirator for Leo yesterday to help get rid of some of the boogeys as he was havig trouble breathing. He is still cluster feeding and also is feeding very often at night like once every 1.5 hours. I keep falling asleep feeding him in bed which I want to stop as it means I'm getting a really sore neck and back from lying strangely with him.
Will have to come back later Leo just did a giant poopy!
Hey ladies
I hope we r all doing well and everyone's bubs r doing even better
As for us
Flynn is still in hospital but is doing really really well. He's got his feeding tube out hoping all going well he will be home soon (cross ur fingers for me plz )
I am doing better but still working on getting my depression under control
picked up some fengugreek and will try that otherwise she said to consider prescription medication next week if no increase.
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