oh kim *hugs* I could barely manage working 2 days a week with Matilda & pregnancy...
Meredith its good to see you back in here!! IKWYM about the identity issues... I mean I guess thats why I've gone back to puppy preschools and the occasional Saturday. I need to have something that is "what I do" where what I do is something other than settling a baby all day.... does that make sense? Me going in even for a few hours reminds me of the vet side of things & keeps me going. I don't think I could ever do full time work until the girls are older, but I like keeping my toe in so I can have that mental stimulation in a different way. Its hard because I see my biggest job is being a Mum, but I also need the clinic side of things for me.
Jovie has decided she doesn't need to sleep today as well, she's had 2 15 minute naps and I need a longer break better run though & get some dishes done before she wakes up again!!
No idea when ill stop working, possibly around September-Early October....i guess all depends how im feeling come then....just so bad atm cos im sick and Chels not sleeping is having a big impact! Im hoping she is behaving at my friends today.
We are actually looking into putting her into family day care, even tho i never wanted to, but it will be soooo much cheaper then me leaving her with my friend.
I've been recuperating from the onlsaught of visitors we had over the break! Feeling much better now. We spent the day with the kids, and had a great family day yesterday. DH took the big kids out this morning and I got to sleep while aston was asleep.
I can relate to what you are saying Meredith, about losing yourself. That's how I have been feeling too. I am looking forward to going back to uni next year and finishing my degree. i have been trying to do some "little" things each day that is just about me. And DH has been great in supporting that. I think he knows that I have reached my limits, and that if I don't do something to feed my soul, I will loose it!
Blanche - Happy Birthday for next week. 21! I feel friggin ancient now! I hope you get your wish.
Christy, happy birthday darlin for the other day. Hugs on the breastfeeding front. You ahve done so well to get this far. Enjoy the opportuinty to "play". Sharing someone elses birth experience is amazing isn't it? I was with my sister for two of her kids, which was really special, as I have had c-sections for all three of mine.
No more babies for this little black duck. I had a tubal ligation done when I had Aston. Plus I'm too old for this! I am feeling every one of my 37 years this time around. I did say to Aston this morning that he had to stop growing now!! it is going to quick.!
Taralee - its so normal to feel all that you are feeling. becoming a parent is so amazing and so overwhelming at the same time. and throw in sleep deprivation to the mix, and its an explosive combination. I snap at DH all the time, and hes wonderful and does soooooo much for me. I don't know how he puts up with me!
I have been a real snake of late, went to the doctor because I have been having increasing anxiety attacks. She is going to keep a close eye on me, and we will do other things before going on medicationn for it. That is one of the reason why I have said NO to having anyone around. Taking care of me.
Catch you again soon Hugs to all - motherhood is hard work, and I think we are all doing a bloody wonderful job!
that was the most unsettled night ever! i'm talking all night. if dh and i moved in bed and the doona made a noise - she was up! now today she's chatting away and still wont sleep!
flying to perth tomorrow - i'm nervous already! i'm ready to jump anyone who even looks at me sideways so let's hope it's a smoooooooth trip!
oh darlin...evie and aston must have been communicating telepathetically...we were up and down all night too, he was moaning...not sure what is going on with him. think i might give solids a try and see what happens...then again, i might not. i'm not quite ready to go to the next stage yet!!
The wonderweeks book talks HEAPS about the 41/2 month to 5 1/2 month phase of being more unsettled at night. Apparently its a major developmental thing.
Really Christy? Maybe I should hold off and just wait until he is 6mths old before offering solids. You would think I'd have it figured out by now, being no. 3, but I tell you, I have no idea what to do. DH keeps asking me what is going on - I say to him, I don't know, ask Aston! He believes that because I have had two already that I should have all the answers. Dont think he quite gets it that each child is DIFFERENT, and not only that, it was over 8 years ago that I did this!! So everything is a little blurred...
I'm glad to know I am not the only mum up and down all night..haha!!
Thanks for the info Christy - nice to know that maybe there is an end in sight as the bubs get older
Vicky - Thanks for your kind words. I know I'm not the only one "losing" myself in motherhood but geez it feels lonely here sometimes! Don't know how ou manage with three kids and a DH to care for.
Tara - GL with the trip to Perth. Sorry if i've missed some posts but are you holidaying? visiting?
Went out last night with some friends for DH's birthday and MIL came over to watch Logan. Fortunately he slept whilst we were out so she didn't have the burden of resettling etc. Both DH and I were almost alseep at the table y 8.30pm.... not quite sure why he was so tired but sure waaay past my bedtime. Dinner took ages and ages to come and although it was nice to be out, I couldn't help be anxious over a) was Logan ok and b) geepers, if the food doesn't arrive soon and we don't get outta here... i'm not going to get any sleep before Logan enters his "difficult" time of night.
As it was, didn't get into bed until 10pm and the boy was up at 11pm -12am, 3am, 4-5.30am and 6.30am. Needless to say i am wrecked today. Just not sure its worth the pain for one night out!!
Meredith - I'm from Perth so all my family are there and of course, being the first grandchild and great-grandchild everyone wants to see her, so our bags all packed and ready to go!
we've reserved a bassinet so hopefully that'll help. I'm just so nervous about the whole flying with evie thing..i cant wait for it to be over! i dont know how i'm going to sleep tonight and it's not like i can just decide to sleep on the plane!
I have a really shameful confession to make, i'm pretty sure evie was up all night because i'd had a bit too much to drink when i feed her. cant shake those guilts off and it served me right really. thats a 'terrible mother' thing to do
i had a great night last night(no engagment ring ) but i got lots of other great stuff!!
Emelia stayed at my mums last night so i got a bit of catch up sleep it was great...plus Emelia slept from 11.30 till 3 today so unlike her but,no complaints here it was great as i was a little bit hungover( only had 5 drinks haha was the first ones ive had!!so been over a year! ) she is in bed again now so im hoping she will sleep through she too has been unsettled at night the last few weeks.
Tara -hope u have a safe trip...weather not that great here atm. how long are u over for?
Tara - hope you have a good time away. If evie is unsettled on the plane try feeding her when you are taking off and landing, helps relieve the pressure in their ears. As for the drinks - it takes about 24hrs for what you have had to be converted to breastmilk. Stop giving yourself such a hard time darlin - your HUMAN woman, not a machine.
I think Aston was unsettled because of all the chocolate I have been eating (bloody easter eggs!!) That is all I can put it down to, I have had an upset tummy, and I think he has too. Serves me right for being a piggy...lol.
Meredith - I am glad you got a night out, but I can understand the whole anxiety of it. Hang in there darlin - I reckon the first year is the hardest (hugs)
Blanche - glad you had a good night - bummer about the "ring". How lovely to have a whole night to yourself...oh what I would do for that!!!
We have had a lovely quiet weekend, and I am feeling a lot better for it. Even if I have been up and down with the boy most nights, but at least I wasn't having to entertain anyone during the day! Kids are back at school on tuesday - new school, so that should be interesting. Off to the last mother baby group thing tomorrow. I wonder whether anything will eventuate from it independantly. I like a couple of the woman there, so it would be nice to be able to meet with them on a regular basis, just so I don't feel like I am going insane...
Yeah Jovie's had the up & down nights more in the past week.... it seems like we had one bad, one good night for ages & then lately its been a few bad nights in a row.... I'm so glad to have the wonderweeks book because it really puts my mind at ease when I hear its all normal.
With solids, even though I "know" the 6 months rule, I am having a hard time atm. Jovie cries whenever I eat in front of her now!!! Its funny she follows every bite. So much so I think I will start giving her rusks when we get back from Sydney. We are going to Sydney on Friday & are going to be there for 10 days. Just so I can eat without the tears.... at least she's not intolerant to wheat.
I am going to trial a soy milk in the next week first to see if she is still intolerant to soy. It will be interesting, but worthwhile seeing how she is going with it all. I want to do it before starting solids & before she stops having any breastmilk at all.
Geez! I've missed out on so much! Took me ages to catch up on what you girls are talking about.
Blanchie - Great to hear you had a great b'day (even though you didn't get the ring). It will come darlin'...
Christy - The Wonderweeks book sound fantastic. I've also been wondering why Ella's waking up 6 times a night rather than her usual one time.
Vicky - Boundaries and limits are great. I'm not very good at setting them but i think its necessary for your own sanity. I've had a few panic attacks. I wasn't sure who to talk to about them or whether they were anything to worry about. BTW - Aston looks so dreamy in that pic on your ticker (love looking at it)
Taralee - Have fun in Perth. My sister is coming over from Perth next week to stay for a while. Havent seen her since i gave birth and will be good to hangout with family.
Meridith - IKWYM. I got so anxious when we left Ella with my MIL for one night. (when she was 6wks old) She didnt end up sleeping until we got home and screamed until midnight.
Well we can now see Ella's teeth when she smiles. Its very cute and she's not biting anymore so my boobs are relieved. We've started her on solids and she loves it. She opens her mouth in anticipation for more food like a little bird. I gave her a rusk which she gnawed down in no-time. So i made a decision to try her on apple and rice and its been a hit! She still drinks all her boob milk too so my supply is still up.
I had an exhausting weekend. DH worked all weekend so i didnt get to have a break and now its a new week and i'm already exhausted.
Ann - good to hear Ella isn't biting anymore! We too have started on solids & Emelia too is like a little birdie!! she is forever trying to get the spoon of me!! we are checking Emelia's mouth everyday waiting for the arrival of her teeth! u can see that they are right under the gum and are giving her so much grief poor thing!
Had her appt with chn on friday she now weighs 9.2kgs!! so put on 600grams in 5 weeks!
Blanchie - glad you had a great 21st party. What pressies did you get?
How great that your mum had Emelia all night - that's a superb ift in itself!
Christy - How is the BFing going? Have you still got some milk?
What's on in Sydney? Holidaying?
Tara - GL with plane trip. Hope it all goes smoothly
Ann - glad DD has ceased using those teeth. Wish someone would teach my boy. I now have to watch very carefully when BFing as he regularly bites when distracted or getting near te end of a feed. My left BB is really getting sick of it!!
Someone told me today that having a baby is like Groundhog Day - how right they are!!
Does anyone else find every day a bit repetitive? BF, play with baby, settle to sleep, resettle possibly several times, washing,cooking, cleaning, BF again etc etc. I just feel a touch lonely and underappreciated doing the same thing day and night with no aknowledgement IYKWIM. Today, I felt I got a lot done (grocery shopping, made dinner, walked the dog for an hr, ironed, cleaned kitchen, attended to Logan's needs) but if I tell DH, he wouldn't think that sounded like much of an achievement at all...... sigh. Guess that's just a mother's burden and only another mother would appreciate the difficulty even geing to the supermarket with a baby.
On the bright side, Logan has been a fairly cheery boy today with a fit of giggling at watching our dog play.. very cute! Also starting to wath me intently when I'm eating.
Not going to start solids until 6mths bt I think he will be very ready.
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better run though & get some dishes done before she wakes up again!!
) but i got lots of other great stuff!!
( only had 5 drinks haha was the first ones ive had!!so been over a year! ) she is in bed again now so im hoping she will sleep through she too has been unsettled at night the last few weeks.
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