Babies Born October 16th ~ 31st 2009

[fi1980]

Rach I was looking at those monitors online yesterday - would you really recommend one? I was worried I was being too paranoid about it all but hey if it is reliable and gives me peace of mind then it may just be worth it as I find sometimes even though Leila sleeps well I'm a little restless constantly listening out to hear her breathing! During her day sleeps I tend to go in and check on her too - just to make sure she is ok! There seems to be 2 on the market that are worth getting, the angelare and babysense and I'm unsure which would be better. Would love to know your thoughts / comments. Thanks

[Rach75]

with jack we had the old analogue one pad version stopped using it in jan this year when he went into bed

we bought the new digital one for luke jase wanted it so definatly worth the $$$ especially if tummy sleeping ... i think they are the bee's knees

[Tammie]

Hi Mums!

I have just caught up after being MIA with bub for the past few days....

Seems like some of you ladies are having a horrible time with BF and sleeping.

I don't want to gloat but my bub has been exceptionally good... sleeps in 5-6 hour blocks during the night (wakes once for a feed then back to sleep within 30 mins). During the day he has a couple of naps also (usually about 1-2 hours at a time).

I just wanted to post up for Fi - i have the Angelcare monitor, i think it is AC 401.... it is fantastic and i have had no problems with it so far. I don't have bub in a basinette atm, he went straight into his cot which is at the other end of the house so monitors were a must for us to hear him at night... we figured if we were going to get them we would get the sensors as well and they are great (the alarms have only gone off when i have picked up bub and forgotten to turn off the monitor so have been reliable also).

got to go sorry but will be back for more personals soon!

Look after yourselves and forget about the housework!

[Stevie]

Hi ladies,
well im just comming in for more of a vent than anything else.
DH and i are having quite a few problems, even tho he is 5 hours away we still manage to argue like crazy
anyway, this morning he was being particularly nasty to me and i told him if it wasnt for Alissa i wouldnt be with him he told me "thats all i needed to know" and hung up and then he text me telling me that us having a baby was ahuge mistake and if i think im getting any of his things i better think again.
i dont want **** from him.
I text him back saying that, and also saying that i wasnt going anywhere coz he's already told me im not aloud to take Alissa from him. Im so stuck i dont know what to do. I love him with all my heart, but he's so controlling and sometimes so nasty that i dont even know why i fell in love with him in the first place.
No one needs to reply to this, coz i know what your all going to say, the same thing that everyone else has already said to me.
I just needed to get this off my chest.
I hope everyone is having a better day than i am lol.

[Kazmar]

Hi ladies,
well im just comming in for more of a vent than anything else.
DH and i are having quite a few problems, even tho he is 5 hours away we still manage to argue like crazy
anyway, this morning he was being particularly nasty to me and i told him if it wasnt for Alissa i wouldnt be with him he told me "thats all i needed to know" and hung up and then he text me telling me that us having a baby was ahuge mistake and if i think im getting any of his things i better think again.
i dont want **** from him.
I text him back saying that, and also saying that i wasnt going anywhere coz he's already told me im not aloud to take Alissa from him. Im so stuck i dont know what to do. I love him with all my heart, but he's so controlling and sometimes so nasty that i dont even know why i fell in love with him in the first place.
No one needs to reply to this, coz i know what your all going to say, the same thing that everyone else has already said to me.
I just needed to get this off my chest.
I hope everyone is having a better day than i am lol.

Fi- This is normal. I know crazy but very normal Having a baby takes time to settle and being so far away from each other prob isn't helping. So you need to put that extra effort in
Its great hes called soemone about it. This proves he loves you and Alissa and is trying to fix the problems
We all say things we dont mean, other then some stupid things he said, sounds like you have a good man.
The controlling part of it, I dont know enough about your situation to give advice. Hang in there.

[Rach75]

kass : oh dear over key as for silent reflux i have no advice, we had few days where Luke was very unsettled but they coincided with when it was quite breezy outside and we had been out in the wind as such..could that be happening with Lucy we all get cross when we can't make them stop crying and the lack of sleep doesn't help matter

stevie : glad hubby has realised he may need to get help, we are always here if ya need to vent, talk etc

AFM : I got some hiruoid cream someone on BB suggested it feet look so much better today still a little puffy but not sore

we had a fairly good night luke in bed by 10pm woke at 2am and 4.50am for feeds he did wake at 7am but i brought him into bed with me and jack joined us at 7.45am we all slep till 8.15am i know jack and i would have slept longer but cranky pants luke wanted a feed so much better than him waking at 5.30am for the day yesterday and not going back down till 8.30am by which jack was up I was cranky tired mummy by bedtime last night also was first day alone jase has gone back to work and I think I overdid it with the washing so today will fold washing and unpack from last week and thats it

[JellyBean]

Hi Ladies.

Boomba - good to see you in here!! Jasper Leo - born 24th of Oct, at 6:00pm (7 pound 15 oz).

Fi - Congrats on completing your last uni assignment ever - what a great feeling that is!! Amazing job managing that with a newborn

Stevie - Feel free to vent hon. I agree with what the others have said - having a baby puts strain on the best of relationships, so its understandable that if you have some issues, they will come to the forefront now. You are in the most difficult stage at the moment, so I think things will get better for both of you (lack of sleep can make the best of us short-tempered!!). As Alissa grows she will also add a different dimension to your relationship. At the moment she is just taking from the two of you (sleep, milk, sanity - lol), but there will soon come a day when the 2 of you will lose count of the amount of times she has made you laugh in a single day. Hang in there. It will be easier to address problems in your marriage when you are not giving so much of your time and energy to the little one.

Dedicated Mummy - I'm not familiar with silent reflux, but DS1 had reflux (and wind/colic) quite bad. We found the most effective treatment to be chiropractic care. Various studies have found digestive issues in newborns to be muscular-skeletal based rather than gastro-intestinal based.
Jasper's wind has not been as bad, but after 2 chiro appointments there has been a major improvement in his digestion. The chiro also treated him for his blocked tear duct which has also been eliminated naturally (quite amazing). I highly recommend this method of treatment based on my personal experience - there are no side effects like there are with reflux drugs etc.

Tammie - half your luck hon!! 5-6 hour stretches at night - ENJOY is all I can say!!

Rach - sounds like you are doing pretty well to keep up with the washing with 2 littlies. My house is looking rather hideous at the moment

LJ - hope your day out with the MIL went well. Sometimes getting out and about is the best thing for us - even when all we feel like doing is crawling into a hole!!

Mummy strength to everyone!!

XX

[Kazmar]

Back later for personals

Just popping in to add Lucy Jeanne 17th October 12:44am to the list

[Rach75]

Stevie having a new baby can put a lot of strain on a relationship I hope you can work things out if not he can't stop you going and take bub with you

[ElleJay]

Stevie, huge hugs hun.. I'm not going to say anything except for - wait for it - I know how you feel.. DH last night AGAIN used the excuse of 'but I have to go to work' and all I said was 'Ah yeah, keep using that excuse'
I honestly sometimes want to just shove a sock down his throat (or worse) and give him a kick up the butt and say 'If your not gonna help out, just leave us alone'

Amber - Of course your welcome - Adding William to the list.. William Robert, born 21st Oct @ 6:56am

Will be back later - spending the day with MIL - looking forward to it too, especially with how down I've been feeling

[fi1980]

Oh Stevie I don't think anyone can prepare you for having a baby. Not only is it a huge shock to your system but it also puts HEAPS of strain on your relationships. Raising a baby on your own is really hard work and it sounds like that is pretty much what you are doing with your DH away so often. I'm not at all surprised that you guys are having a few issues but try not to let them get you down or become too destructive. You both really need each other right now and Alissa needs you too so try to hang in there and be patient with each other. It's normal for things to be a bit crazy right now but I'm sure they will settle down soon.

Rach & Tammie thanks heaps for your advice, I just went out and got myself an Angelcare monitor!! Now we can all sleep a little more soundly.

Ok girls I have some super exciting news to share with you.... I have just handed in my last every uni assessment item!! I've been studying for my business degree part time while working full time for the past 4 years - squeezing in summer school subjects to try and get things out of the way as quickly as possible. It has been a long hard slog but now I can relax! I know I have already passed the subject so anything I get for this last assessment is pretty much just bonus marks So I now have a bachelor of business degree with a double major in management and IR/HR . Yay me!! Sorry - just so excited for myself. If any of you had tried to balance full time work with study you'll understand exactly where I'm coming from.

I'm exhausted now - time to have a rest while Leila is sleeping

Fi