Babies Born October 16th ~ 31st 2009

[Kazmar]

Hi ladies,
well im just comming in for more of a vent than anything else.
DH and i are having quite a few problems, even tho he is 5 hours away we still manage to argue like crazy
anyway, this morning he was being particularly nasty to me and i told him if it wasnt for Alissa i wouldnt be with him he told me "thats all i needed to know" and hung up and then he text me telling me that us having a baby was ahuge mistake and if i think im getting any of his things i better think again.
i dont want **** from him.
I text him back saying that, and also saying that i wasnt going anywhere coz he's already told me im not aloud to take Alissa from him. Im so stuck i dont know what to do. I love him with all my heart, but he's so controlling and sometimes so nasty that i dont even know why i fell in love with him in the first place.
No one needs to reply to this, coz i know what your all going to say, the same thing that everyone else has already said to me.
I just needed to get this off my chest.
I hope everyone is having a better day than i am lol.

Fi- This is normal. I know crazy but very normal Having a baby takes time to settle and being so far away from each other prob isn't helping. So you need to put that extra effort in
Its great hes called soemone about it. This proves he loves you and Alissa and is trying to fix the problems
We all say things we dont mean, other then some stupid things he said, sounds like you have a good man.
The controlling part of it, I dont know enough about your situation to give advice. Hang in there.

[Rach75]

kass : oh dear over key as for silent reflux i have no advice, we had few days where Luke was very unsettled but they coincided with when it was quite breezy outside and we had been out in the wind as such..could that be happening with Lucy we all get cross when we can't make them stop crying and the lack of sleep doesn't help matter

stevie : glad hubby has realised he may need to get help, we are always here if ya need to vent, talk etc

AFM : I got some hiruoid cream someone on BB suggested it feet look so much better today still a little puffy but not sore

we had a fairly good night luke in bed by 10pm woke at 2am and 4.50am for feeds he did wake at 7am but i brought him into bed with me and jack joined us at 7.45am we all slep till 8.15am i know jack and i would have slept longer but cranky pants luke wanted a feed so much better than him waking at 5.30am for the day yesterday and not going back down till 8.30am by which jack was up I was cranky tired mummy by bedtime last night also was first day alone jase has gone back to work and I think I overdid it with the washing so today will fold washing and unpack from last week and thats it

[JellyBean]

Hi Ladies.

Boomba - good to see you in here!! Jasper Leo - born 24th of Oct, at 6:00pm (7 pound 15 oz).

Fi - Congrats on completing your last uni assignment ever - what a great feeling that is!! Amazing job managing that with a newborn

Stevie - Feel free to vent hon. I agree with what the others have said - having a baby puts strain on the best of relationships, so its understandable that if you have some issues, they will come to the forefront now. You are in the most difficult stage at the moment, so I think things will get better for both of you (lack of sleep can make the best of us short-tempered!!). As Alissa grows she will also add a different dimension to your relationship. At the moment she is just taking from the two of you (sleep, milk, sanity - lol), but there will soon come a day when the 2 of you will lose count of the amount of times she has made you laugh in a single day. Hang in there. It will be easier to address problems in your marriage when you are not giving so much of your time and energy to the little one.

Dedicated Mummy - I'm not familiar with silent reflux, but DS1 had reflux (and wind/colic) quite bad. We found the most effective treatment to be chiropractic care. Various studies have found digestive issues in newborns to be muscular-skeletal based rather than gastro-intestinal based.
Jasper's wind has not been as bad, but after 2 chiro appointments there has been a major improvement in his digestion. The chiro also treated him for his blocked tear duct which has also been eliminated naturally (quite amazing). I highly recommend this method of treatment based on my personal experience - there are no side effects like there are with reflux drugs etc.

Tammie - half your luck hon!! 5-6 hour stretches at night - ENJOY is all I can say!!

Rach - sounds like you are doing pretty well to keep up with the washing with 2 littlies. My house is looking rather hideous at the moment

LJ - hope your day out with the MIL went well. Sometimes getting out and about is the best thing for us - even when all we feel like doing is crawling into a hole!!

Mummy strength to everyone!!

XX

[fi1980]

Stevie I'm so glad DH has realised that his behaviour is hurting all of you and is getting some help, that is such a wonderful, positive step. It shows just how much he really cares about you and Alissa.

DM - OMG about the keys and crazy expenses you incurred! I'm not too sure about silent reflux but interestingly I had a visit from the local health nurse this morning and she said that a lot of babies are misdiagnosed with wind/colic/reflux when they cry during the night and do all the things typically associated with these conditions - she said the majority of the time they are in fact just overtired. Not sure if this is the case or not but thought I'd mention it as something to consider anyway as I was very surprised when she told me.

JB I'm with you on the chiro thing. I haven't actually taken Leila yet but I am thinking about it. It's amazing what chiro's can do. A few years ago I used to get tonsilitis all the time and almost had to have them out when by chance I was at an expo thing and they had chiro's there talking about all the things that could be fixed with their treatment. So I started seeing a chiro in the hope of helping with my tonsilitis (never thought this would help & never understood how adjusting your back could fix something in your throat!) but I have never had tonsilitis since! Also during late pregnancy I was having terrible back problems so went to the chiro and was completely fixed in no time. It's amazing how they can realign your whole body and put everything back into balance.

AFM all going well. Another pretty good night for us. Leila is sleeping peacefully at the moment and I am so chilled now that I have my anglecare monitor - I haven't been in to check on her once!! The nurse this morning said that Leila was just gorgeous, that I'm doing fabulously as a mother and genearlly everything is just perfect - really good weight gain & growth and she said she just looks like a really happy, relaxed baby etc. So I feel great knowing that my little girl is doing so well plus the recognition that I'm doing so well as a mother was nice too as it is not always easy - in fact it's really tough at times, as we all know!

Hmmm, now that I've finished uni and have a baby that sleeps well I don't really know what to do with myself! Cleaning.... nah!! That can wait

Fi

[Kazmar]

Jellybean- I have always been against chiro, until I found an amazing man who fixed my back. First he had a massive convo with me about all my fears. Best thing was he agreed with what I was saying and showed me his take on chiro work. Extremly different to many others. I spoke to him about newborn care and he convinced me of its amazing results Im very much against drugs and toxins unless last resort so I might give him a bell.

Fi- Totally get where your health nurse is coming from. When Annabelle was a baby I was told by mum etc to keep burping as she 'had wind'. I called the health nurse line, one really bad night. She told me Annabelle was being over stimulated by me trying to burp her for so long and she was over tired
Having said that, Lucy is different, it really seems like something else

Rach- Sounds like my house having the bigger one jump into bed with me I love cuddling my girls in bed.
Sounds like Luke is settling down a little hopefully he keeps it up!

So how is everyones feeding going?

[Rach75]

I am going to go mental today, did so well yesterday..then had nice sleep in with the boys and it all went down hill from there, Luke has only just gone down he has been awake since just after 8.15am he has dozed off a couple of times but maybe 10min max Jack has been driving me batty he is bored and out of soughts because he can't have all my attention ... and we are housebound as I can't drive till I see OB

I seriosuly have done nothing today except wash bottles and that had to be done as I was running out, luke screamed while I was doing this but had no choice had to be done..I haven't managed to have a shower and giving Luke 5min if he is still sleeping then I will shower I to fold the washing and unpack it has to be done... floors can wait till tomorrow though...

also am stressing as I can't seem to get any milk when i pump was doing real well up till yesterday, was getting on average 75mls from both bb's up till sat, then I didn't pump as much on sun due to only hvaing the manual, pumped sun night got 120ml... picked up pump yesterday finally managed o pump in the arvie got 50ml in 10min since then though I have pumped 6 times and bairly managed to get anything the most I got was 10ml from both bb's I am drinking heaps of water probably not eating as much but is hard with luke wanting to be cuddled.. I feel like I am failing everythingn was going so well and all of a sudden its gone downhill

[boomba]

Hi girls just popping in quickly with the list will be back later let me know if its right please xxxx



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