sending you lots and lots of hugs itsme You are never alone and it will get better.
Our baby care nurse took me through "self settling" which seems to be controlled crying under a different name, I can see the benefits of Bethany being able to put herself to sleep but I don't know if I am strong enough to stick it out... Has anyone tried it?
Itsme - hun it does get easier lovely and we are all here for you. Next time you decide to go out get everything you need sorted the night before, tell yourself you will get out at SOME stage during the next day but don't set a time and then with everything ready to go wake up, feed, shower etc and then when things seem ok, do the dash out the door. I did that the first few times, set myself tiny goals and got myself organised long before I had to go so I wasn't overwhelmed by it all. and just remember we are all here for you.
Amy - I did controlled comforting (not crying and not timed) after going to sleep school at 6mths and I started doing it at 7 mths wtih Isabelle. I would cuddle, pat, shhhh but not breastfeed if she woke up beteween 7-6. I wouldn't do it with a baby less than 6 mths old but that's JMO. I think they are too young and need comfort and feeds at that young age.
i know its a NO NO.. tummy sleeping etc... and so are pillows... BUT both my older two had a pillow.. and i have had Jack in bed now for the past 2 1/2 to 3 hrs wrapped and on a fairly thin pillow.. and he is SOOOO settled..BUT the minute he starts rolling the pillow will be gone...
he had a HUGE chuck at his last feed... and was soo grizzly afterwards...took me abit to get him to sleep but he has been sleeping since.
Paed also recommended we give him after his feed 5ml of mylanta..so we shall see how it goes.
Aawww Itsme, huge hugs for you hun! I wish I'd known where you were, I woulda come down and given you a big hug in person... I don't think I'm THAT far away from you. Crying in the car is just awful, I always feel like such a bad mum even though I know I'm not. Hang in there, we're all here for you
Katones: One of the reasons babies don't need pillows is because they don't have necks (not really).
Itsme: I totally understand how you feel. I have been alone this whole time and I am down. I agree with Tan, setting small goals is the best way to get through the tough days. My goal for today was simply to make a phonecall.
I think all my problems - the gastro, the insomnia, the fatigue, and today's rash on my hip - are all side effects of maxolon so I stopped taking it and I feel improved but still recovering. I wish I'd thought about that days ago. 6 days of crap side effects was too much.
belfie - Thanks. I find it so hard listening to her screaming in the car when I can't do anything for her!
Tanstar - Thanks for the suggestion. I hadn't thought to organise myself the day before. I think that's the way to go!
Hollye - Thanks for the suggestions. Unfortunately Maya just doesn't like being in the car. I might have to look into getting something for her to look at and I like the breast milk on a blanket idea. I've tried giving her water in a bottle and she won't drink it. Maybe I should try again. Maya also doesn't like lying in bed with me during the day, unless I am BF. But she will sleep on me if I am sitting upright. I think she just doesn't like lying down during the day!
Well.. for tomorrow I have made a much smaller goal for myself. Just to get out and go for a walk with her. Then anything else I achieve is just an extra plus!
Itsme - You are welcome hun! Baby steps all the way, and even with the walk, don't set a time, just tell yourself at some stage you will get out and wait for the perfect time!
OK quick ignorant question - why is sleeping on tummy easier than sleeping on their back - is it for digestive reasons or preference??
I think I am lucky with Z in the car - he hardly ever cries unless he has a bit of wind and a quick burb fixes that. Probably because he is distracted all the time with the other two in the back talking to him. I often ask the kids - is Zander awake or asleep cos he is so quiet!
We had child care end of year BBQ tonight, and Zander was so good, I think I am lucky in that he hardly ever cries unless wind or hungry, even when overtired he just gets a bit whoozy and a little grizzly , but he is my third so maybe it is cos I am more relaxed - or don't hear it!!
We are still b/f well - well today anyway LOL
Getting out of the house can be hard, but yes I agree with setting mini-goals. Another few months and you will be out walking at 7.30 and waiting for the shops to open at 9 etc - it really does get easier - as Tanstar suggested too, it is all about being organised as much as you can - always have the baby bag ready to go so you don't have to restock it etc, pram in car night before, even go so far as make a sandwich night before so you can eat on the run - as long as you can see some sunshine if it is around - good luck Itsme for tomorrow.
belfie - special mention - wooohooo our X/Z's are 2 months old today already
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You are never alone and it will get better.
, but he is my third so maybe it is cos I am more relaxed - or don't hear it!!
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