hmmm well some ppl compensate by buying presents for channuka instead - i do get N things (and other kids in the family) but I dont want to set it up like channuka = xmas as that isnt really right (usually smaller pres)... there are other times of the yr he will get stuff and his bday is a big deal (as i guess it is for everyone) but i guess i would just get it for him in the yr? not sure....