Shell, what Jandals said! I had no intention of upsetting you or anyone at all. I hope that you don't think I've trivialised anything. Yes, it was mainly about me and my relationship with Robert. I felt that we have too much outside pressure on us to be perfect and to do things "right" when in truth, we already are doing the right thing - it may not be by the book (depending on which one you read) but we have these wonderful little beings who are living proof on what we have already achieved. I certainly didn't intend to judge anyone. I don't believe that anyone has the right to judge another person. As Jandals said, sometimes it can be hard to get a meaning across without visual cues - seeing how our comments can make another person react.

Please come back and share with us. I'm so, so sorry for being thoughtless.