I'm not justifing myself at all i dont have a problem with what i do i was just shareing my experiences from the last 18 years and from what my grandmother and mother have shared with me and when people want to remind me of all the do's and dont's in the media i feel i have the right to air my views aswell and as you said i don't give a rats razoo at what others do with their kids as long as they are not neglected and abused then each to their own but i also dont like things rubbed in my face because of something they read on the internet or heard on tv or even the world health organisation as they are the main one to change there minds all the time one minute something is safe then the next it causes cancer so i take thier advice with a grain of salt DON'T BELIEVE EVERYTHING YOU READ and i was mearly expressing what i do and have done for the last 18 years and that is has worked for me and have every right to if you dont agree then dont read my post's then you wont feel the need to comment.