Mylitta hats off to you getting all 3 asleep at the same time
did you sleep to or rest?
Razz- feeling for you and the reflux, im gonna speak with my gp friday when i go get Rykers needles he still seems like he has reflux, he does small spews, not huge ones like my other 2 used to but its the pain it causes him, the back arching and grunting and screaming until something comes up im sure its reflux. thats great you have DD in care 1 day a week, im sure it will be good for her and you peanutter- 60 premade lunches WOW!! good on you for being so well organised. what sorts of things have you made yourself?
well i think i am either coming down with something or over doing it cause my whole body aches
R managed a 6 1/2hr stint overnight which i was thankful for cause i needed it, but he took a long while to settle after, then ds2 wet the bed, then came into our bed and then i didnt really sleep cause i had Ryker in with us too and was paranoid thier were too many bodies in the bed and he would roll onto Ryker...
was going to walk to school again today but ive decided to not push myself, ds2 who hasnt been in a pram for 18months suddenly decides he wants to go in the pram too so i end up pushing a 4 1/2yr old aswell as Ryker
DF has been constantly putting the hard word on me lately, i get that its been like 12 weeks but FFS im so over it! im just not ready to do it yet.
i stopped bleeding FINALLY last week, but have had spotting on and off since then and in my head, if im still bleeding, then obviously things arent quite ready yet.
im over the need for my body, ive been breastfeeding a baby round the clock for the last 9 weeks (dont get me wrong i love it! but at the same time, my body is needed by someone other than myself ITMS?) before that i was carrying her in my belly for 37 weeks and before that it was only 3 and bit months between jacks birth and addisons conception, so in other words, 2 yrs of someone other than myself needing my body. and if we want to count it, i bf Iz for 6 months and as soon as i stopped i was pregnant again, so virtually 3.5 yrs of my body not being my own, which is fine, when we choose to have kids, we choose to sacrifice our bodies.
i've been waiting until after he's in bed before i go in (like an hr or 2) and the last few nights ive taken Addison into bed with me just so he doesnt try anything on. Last night the 3 of us were having nice cuddles for a while and then the wandering hand started, i moved my body in a way to indicate that i wasnt interested but he kept going and i asked him to stop, which he did, but then he blew up at me because apparently i was stringing him on....um no. I dont deal with pre arranged sex, i just cant do it, i dont know why, the pressure of knowing i have to 'preform' makes me shut down and definetly doesnt get me in the mood!
its not that i dont want to have sex with him, just not yet.
He's been so great since he started his new job, he;s the happiest he's been in yrs and is helping heaps with the kids and the house work, i get that he NEEDS to have sex, every healthy relationship does but atm, im just not there.
Sorry to unload that on you ladies, just needed to get it out before i belt him with a frying pan.
In A news, nothing major to report, decent night out of my sprout, i looovoe snuggling in bed with her, she's so fnny when she sleeps
Skybie, sorry things are strained between you and hubby. I understand because DH definitely has a higher sex drive than I do. Luckily since having Arlia he hasn't requested anything more than a "helping hand". I don't even know how to manage anything more these days. Arlia is co-sleeping in our room and the majority of nights we have his two stepsons here because they live with us, so it's not like we can retreat to the lounge room for some action because even after bed time someone might get up and wander in. I wonder how others make this work....?
Skye sorry you guys are having a rough time, it's hard when you have different needs do you feel up to giving your DF 'a helping hand'? As Mylitta put it to take a bit of pressure off? I know it still is demanding of your body but maybe not so intimate and might take some of the pressure off both of you. I get where you are coming from I love breastfeeding but you do lose a sense of self at times.
Nickers hope you can shake off whatever it is,mgreat sleep from Ryker
Peanutter you sound super organised, 60 lunches is amazing, I'm pretty impressed if I get six meals put away in the freezer lol
Mylitta hope you enjoyed the the peace when you and all three asleep. I ended up leaving the two little girls in the car the other day as they and fallen asleep, they were in the garage which is under the main roof, it wasn't hot the doors were open and the door to the house was open so i could hear them and dd2 w unstrapped so she could get out when she woke up. I still felt a bit guilty but they were perfectly safe and I did not want to risk waking them up!
Another good night from Helena 5.5hr sleep, woke, fed, spewed into the arm of my dressing gown then settled down quickly. Then she woke at 6 which fitted in nicely with getting ready for school except she was really unsettled so I ended up wearing her in the close carrier most of the morning before we left. Still managed to get another load of washing on and all the normal morning jobs done. We went shopping as the girls had eaten fruit I had bought to last 5 days in 2 days and I picked up some cheap pumpkin so there is a pot of pumpkin soup on the stove and the corned beef is in the slow cooker. Had DD2 in tears as it wasn't raining this morning and she wanted to use her umbrella, lucky for her it started when we got to the shops so she got to use the umbrella, I wasn't so excited about the rain when shopping with two kidlets but it made dd's day lol
Skye. I completely understand where you are coming from hun. It's so hard. Ever since getting pregnant with DS1 my sex drive hasn't really recovered. Years of pregnancy and BF do take their toll and I think the men in our lives, no matter how hard they try, really aren't able to 'get' it. Unfortunately, I have no idea what the solution is... Possibly time and space... Oh and of course, children who sleep well.
Sara, Miss Helena seems to be sleeping really well for you. I have to say I am in awe at how you juggle everything and manage to get so much done. Hope things continue this way for you.
Nickers, I hope you're feeling a little better now. Hopefully Ryker will give you another good nights sleep tonight and let you get on top of this bug.
Razz, glad to hear you got the CC place. It will be great for you to have some one on one time with your little man.
Peanutter, hope you're enjoying your last couple of days at home. I'm another one who is in awe of your 60 lunches!
Lct, did you get the MCHN to have a look at your CS scar? I'd also be a little concerned about it still being sore to touch. I'm only 4 weeks on, but my scar hasn't been painful for quite awhile. Definately worth getting it checked out just in case.
AFM, today is my first day flying solo! DH went back to work today. DS1 was quite upset this morning and our CC drop off went less than well. Poor thing was so upset. But his teacher called me an hour later to say that he had settled down quickly after I left and was back to his usual happy self, so that's a relief. I'm expecting the next couple of weeks to be a bit difficult for him (and me) as he adjusts to real life. He's at CC the next couple of days though, which means that I can ease into looking after the two of them slowly, rather than being thrown straight in the deep end.
Cooper had his 4 week check-up with the MCHN today. He's still piling on the weight and is becoming quite a chubba bubba. Another 350 grams and 2.5cms in the last 8 days, but I'm expecting it to slow down soon. We had a great night last night. Fed him at 10pm before I went to bed, he woke at 2am and then again at 6am. So I only had to get up once last night which was lovely! Hoping we can keep this up. He normally wakes around 5am for a feed, which has been a pain because by the time I've fed him, done the nappy, burped him and put him back down DS1 is waking up and the day has to get started. He was pretty unsettled though today, after dragging him out for the CC drop-off, then home, then getting him up again to go to the MCHN, he was a bit over-tired. Took me over an hour of cuddling etc to get him into a deep enough sleep to be able to put him down. But, I haven't got anything planned for tomorrow, so hopefully we can both have a nice restful day in.
Now, I should run and make the most of his sleep time and get some house work done! Hope everyone is having a wonderful day x
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do you feel up to giving your DF 'a helping hand'? As Mylitta put it to take a bit of pressure off? I know it still is demanding of your body but maybe not so intimate and might take some of the pressure off both of you. I get where you are coming from I love breastfeeding but you do lose a sense of self at times.
then settled down quickly. Then she woke at 6 which fitted in nicely with getting ready for school except she was really unsettled so I ended up wearing her in the close carrier most of the morning before we left. Still managed to get another load of washing on and all the normal morning jobs done. We went shopping as the girls had eaten fruit I had bought to last 5 days in 2 days and I picked up some cheap pumpkin so there is a pot of pumpkin soup on the stove and the corned beef is in the slow cooker. Had DD2 in tears as it wasn't raining this morning and she wanted to use her umbrella, lucky for her it started when we got to the shops so she got to use the umbrella, I wasn't so excited about the rain when shopping with two kidlets but it made dd's day lol
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