BBB - you must have watched a different show, I swore I understood it to be controlled comforting, like you put bub to bed awake in cot an allow them to settle, but if they don't, you go in and comfort them. Controlled crying is somewhat different in that you basically allow baby to cry itself to sleep, and I am sure the doctor said that was really bad for babies (??). I did the former with Caden and after two days of grumpy baby, he learned to sleep on his own. I know even controlled comforting is contraversial as you are not meant to let them fall asleep in your arms, but it is far better than just letting them wail away for hours until they are exhausted. I did like the part where they said co-sleeping and baby wearing is good, as I do that almost exclusively .

EMC - I live in the cyber world most of the time too. Although I did just join another mothers group, as we have moved since R was born so it is hard to catch up with my old group, even though we still do meet from time to time. I love coming on here when I get the chance.

As for weighing, I don't do it very frequently. I did with Caden as it was nice to see him gaining weight, but with River I can tell anyway, and like most of you, he is almost in 00s (but I don't want to take the plunge as I want him to be little for just a little bit longer ).

Tampons - yes these are ok to use once the initial after-birth bleeding has stopped, providing you have no pain from birth or other issues associated with pg. If you are bfing, you might need some lubricant to put them in though (the bfing lowers your oestrogen and can make the environment a little drier). I noticed "down there" changed a bit after having Caden and they were a little trickier to insert (sorry TMI).

Sorry to those gals having issues with Ex's. I know how hard it is just being married, let alone dealing with the additional complication of visitation rights etc.

AFM - all good here. River, at a guess, is 6.3 kg. Sleep school was great, we did some of that "controlled comforting" as I mentioned, where the theory was if I am providing him 5 star service by rocking him in my arms, perhaps a 3 star service of having me rock him and comfort him in the cot would be ok. It has had an impact, as in he will quite happily fall asleep in the car or pram now yay. He got the flu again just last week so that sort of curbed my plans to get his day sleeps in the cot, but I am happy with our progress so far. I know he can do it, and I always give him a go in the cot as I know it is an important skill for them to learn, but he will gradually get better at it over time.

Well, better go do something while I have two harnds free