ok, and now you have me sobbing happy tears MD. Your words have brought me alot of comfort. from the aura shield idea...(duh, why'd i not think of that??!!) to the school. I think I do need to have more faith in our little family to help guide her through. and it is by no means a poxy school...just different ITMS. I guess if we keep reiterating our values then it might just work out.