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thread: Babies born~ September 2007 #64

  1. #127
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    I think my baby is kicking. Or I am going to fart soon.
    So which one was it?

    Uni is good Arte. I got one assignment back today and only got a C - 68% - which is fine, but what ****ed me off was that I emailed the lecturer to ask what should be covered because none of us had any real idea and I got told that my suggestions were fine, then the marker said no, those things weren't really the right thing to talk about! Anyway can't complain - one girl failed miserably and she's devastated as the essay was worth 50%.

    MP, that is fantastic! I knew you'd impress them. So when will all of this happen?

    Ange, so you'll be here from now till the birth then? Is DH going to be able to get over here for it?

    Cally, I hope you didn't have any troubles at bedtime tonight.

  2. #128
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    I would like him to Trill, but in reality he won't make it. I had L at 38 weeks and S at almost 42. So he can't really come and just wait iykwim. And I'm not willing to be induced for convenience. So he will come a little after or on the due date or if we hear news otherwise. I think I'm cool with it. Would like him to be there but tbh I feel like I'll be ok on my own. Mum 'might' come. I know she'd love to and she knows her way around the hospital so would be a great advocate for my wishes. But she's not all the sympathetic! More a down to business kinda lady. Lol. I told her she'd need to hone her sympathy, supportive skills. She was a little put out, but she got over it.

    That sux about misguided info, especially if it's worth 50%?! P's = degrees remember! Given a chick failed a c sounds good. Were the marks standardised?

  3. #129
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    Thats a bugger about him not being able to be there. Is he OK with it though? LOL at your Mum. I'm sure if she was there with you she'd do all the right things. I have no idea if they were standardised. I don't even know who marked mine - he had a ****ty signature and I can't read it but they split them up and have several different markers, so maybe she just got unlucky. From what she said she had covered zero of the content we were supposed to, but I reckon if you aren't sure then you should email them and ask - better to look like a numpty for asking than looking like a numpty because you failed.

  4. #130
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    I think it was the baby.

    JM, I was sooo upset at the thought of having no one at A's birth and then in the end it didn't matter at all! It turned out to be such an internal process I wouldn't have noticed if he had been there anyway. It is a bit sad that DH missed the birth but there are certainly worse things in life.

    Trill, bummer about the mark, but if everyone got low then it won't matter in the end because they should scale the overall marks to fit the normal curve anyway. Sucks for the girl that failed. I might be in that boat soon, just sent away an assignment that I know was substandard. I really hate doing that but there wasn't time to do better and the subject was so airy that I don't even think time would have made a difference iykwim?

    MD, sending you a few IL survival vibes.

  5. #131
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    Never a stupid question just a stupid answer! That is really unfair when different people mark. There is no way they all see things I'm the same light.

    Dh is a great father, but I really don't think he gives two hoots if he's at the birth or not! Lol. Sure he'd be there if he could and is a great support but I don't think he'll lose sleep over not being there. He is so practical, i think he sees me as just another cow birthing. Lmao.

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    Just sticking my head in to say hi Have been reading when I can but no time (or energy) to reply.

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    Hi Oz

    JM, I think DH is the same. He would be there if it was practical but not overly worried if he misses it. W's birth traumatised him a bit - not allowed to mention the placenta because apparently it came out so fast it bounced lmao. He is a bit squeamish and to be honest, birth is quite gross!

  9. #135
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    it bounced??? omg arte you are a crack up lol! well to really gross your DH out just tell him that when it's a waterbirth they float around like a jellyfish

    JM: how do you feel about being possibly on your own for it? i guess if you do feel you want some support you could ask a doula or a student middy? TBH i couldnt imagine doing it without someone that was meant to be there only for me...but i do like an audience hahaha!

    sherie: oh that is really bad for your mate. if i were her, i would ask for it to be re-marked. that way it is marked by the course convenor. generally they do agree with the marker (even if it is unfair...unfortunately, your assignments are not marked according to individual merit, but as a group as they HAVE to fit on a J curve scale. harsh, but the reality IYKWIM). it is worth her getting it marked again, even if to just bump her up a teeny tiny bit.

    hmmm ok, i only hit post quick reply so cannae see the rest.

    Cally: i hope that you are feeling a bit better...

    Oz: good to see you in here babe! i have been drooling over the gorgeous photo sessions you have done lately! argh! you need to come to melbourne so that we can have a session! hmmm mebbe we should time it for the big sept 07 baby buddies meet that we all have to have

    AFM: all good here. have pulled marta out of kindy...bit scared as it is so hard to find any place here and have been told 18 months to wait...eppp! but TBH she just didnt need to be there and it was alot of driving (45 mins each way). not to mention just over $100 a day now that i am no longer a student . i am still scared though as they were gorgeous carers and Leila just loves it there, but ATM it just didnt fit right ITMS. soooo now i am having for the first time ever just time with the girls (leila still does 3 year old kinder 2 days); and you know what? it feels really nice! no thesis to worry about, no real stress! of course i am applying for the DFAT job, but urgh TBH i think i totally flunked the mathematical component (no calculators arghh!!!!!). i am ok with percentages and patterns etc, but sooo not good with values and those big problem solving ones....especially when you are only given 20 seconds to answer each question . totally bummed, but what can you do?

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    Cass, that sounds like a scary interview! That is a massive amount of childcare bill! Loving the NZ system, it costs $5 per week to send W to kindy.
    That is a lot of driving (and petrol money) as well. Will be nice just to relax at home with them.

    I forgot to say for any Home and Away fans, Kim is married to W's teacher's sister! He is Thor in the movie Thor which is about to be released and she was showing us a pxt of his new doll lol.

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    OMG Arte, explain that again...Thor is W's kindy teacher's BIL??!!! Awesome, DH and I were just saying we'd love to go and see that when it opens. Have no idea who this kim is you speak of though .

    Ginger - How is L going? Sending you love and hugs. xxx

    Trill, bummer about the mark, but i have no doubt you will still ace the subject in. Good learning experience on what NOt to do once you're doing the teaching...

    MP - massive congrats! I think that old line about a change being as good as a holiday is a crock, but it's sounds like you're ready to embrace a new adventure, with all the wonderful things it will bring!
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  12. #138
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    Mar 2007
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    Girls this is a selfish post....I had the worst, worst day today. I had my worst mummy moment EVER and I cannot stop crying, I will never forgive myself Went out for a nice lunch with my mum and one of my sisters, and brought both my girls along. On the way out I figured it was only a very short walk to the car and I did not strap E into the pram. Biggest mistake. I turned my back on the pram and M to pay the bill and mum and my sis had turned away as well. Turned around in time to see the pram come crashing down and poor baby got completely flung out. M had been standing on the edge of the pram and had somehow pulled it down. I absolutely panicked and I was just beside myself. E was screaming but thankfully she was ok. But I lost it at M in the packed restaurant (when really its my fault to begin with). I dont know how many times I have told her not to climb on the pram, always thinking one of these days she will knock the pram down.....bloody hell.....everyone was looking and people rushed over to help. I was so shaken and so was my mum and sis, we all had a cry when we got outside. I am still fuming at M, to the point where my mum and sis said they would look after her for the arvo, they probably thought I needed a break from her to calm down. But most of all I am fuming at myself!!!!!!! Never ever have I had an accident like this before....bad bad mummy moment. Just so glad poor E is ok, but she was so shaken.

  13. #139
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    Oh H huge huge hugs babe. That must have been so scary. Don't beat yourself up or be to mad at M, it was an accident and these things happen. Everyone is ok and that is the main thing.

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    Isadora, It happens to the best of us hun. I am sure neither of the girls will be harmed for life by it and it is the natural response to growl if one kid has hurt the other - I have done it more than once. Maybe next time M will think twice before she jumps on the pram. Glad E was alright.

    Feel like spew, be back tomorrow.

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    oh Isa! that would of just been awful for you xx but i have to agree with the others, this stuff happens and yeah, it totally sucks and is heart-stopping, but like Oz mentioned everyone is ok and you'll be ok too (if you feel really bad for M just go into her room and give her a cuddle: have you had a moment to be able to talk to her about it? sometimes i find that it helps both me and leila to just go over it and for me to tell her why i lost it (and that i am sorry) and how i was scared that they were hurt etc etc...can be very therapeutic!)

    Arte: you and me both sista...although i am vomiting for slightly different reasons..gastro! oh yeah baby...the joys and the glamour.

  16. #142
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    ok, did i mention that i had gastro? omg, massive understatement (although is gastro really an understatement?). i am having visions of JM and her ugg boot gastro incident here...oh yeah it is that glamourous! thankfully DH took leila out to a birthday party for a couple of hours and Marta slept the whole the time so that i could just rest and vague out. but i am totally devastated as today was the midwife autumn picnic (our midwives group meets 2 times a year) and i really wanted to catch up with them all

  17. #143
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    I had the debrief chat with M. I'm glad that my sister and mum insisted that she stay with them yesterday arvo, while I went home. They brought her back at 6pm. Gave me time to cool down, I was so upset that i was gasping for air while crying when retelling the story to DH at home. Havent cried like that in forever!!! I had nightmares last night about it. Still feel incredibly guilty. But anyway I'm glad that they took her, they must have realised I would yell at her big time once home, I was fuming. But after I cooled down I realised its my fault, not hers. Although she knows she shouldnt be standing on the edge of the pram and keeps telling me it was an accident and she wont stand on the pram again. Really really made me feel like the worst mum, thats my worst mummy moment ever.

    ALSO we went out for dinner last night. DH insisted and my eyes were all sore from crying lol. Anyway once there it was all good. But while waiting for a free table I had to feed E so the restaurant had a little waiting area to the side with a comfy leather lounge, so I sat there. It was a busy little spot but I was barely exposing myself, especially now I've learnt the knack of public feeding without it really looking like I'm feeding. And this man, I couldnt believe him, he kept looking and giving me a filthy look, so i gave him a death stare back. Once he left the restaurant host man came up to me and was all 'are you comfortable there, can i get you a drink, stay there as long as you need and I will take you through to your table when you are ready' He was wonderful and obviously saw the disgusting man shooting me the evils and was trying to let me know I was welcome to feed. So that was my first public feeding dirty look lol

    Cass - That sounds terrible, hope the girls dont get it!!! Good on your DH for taking L out.

  18. #144
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    Isa for giving him the dirty look right back!! (and kudos to the restaurant man too). Re the pram episode...you live and learn, try not to be too hard on yourself . I would've been beside myself too I think.

    Cass, you poor thing. I hope the gastro passes asap, sounds awful.

    Ginger, how you going sweetie? I hope L is on the mend now. DD1 really turned the corner from memory around day 3 or 4 so I hope he's past the worst of it now.

    Arte, hope you're not too miserable with the MS

    Well it turns out the ILs are a blessing in disguise as the FDC lady rang this evening to say she can't have E this week because her youngest has chicken pox (?? and is vaccinated ) so now i'm a) panicking because I really have *not* done enough study and have an assignment due next week and while MIL will mind E while I"m at work it's not quite the same as having her in care on my days off b) am anxious about how it's going to go with MIL minding E while I'm at work and c) sweating over whether E is going to sprout the pox too. *SIGH* (yes, in capitals). Why does this **** always happen when DH is away???

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