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MM - hope the fasting went well, I can't imagine having to get through the morning without K having her yogurt IMMEDIATELY!! Hope the operation goes well too and she bounces back quickly.
Trill - thanks for the pumpkin name.
Well DH has totally come around to my thinking about putting a gate across the back yard - to the extent that his dad was going to come out on Sunday and get started with him. But then we spoke to the neighbours and one of the posts on their side is rotting, so he wants to replace it, but that means the fence has to be jacked across to our side a bit so we can't put our posts in. So it's on a bit of a hold at the moment, but we are going to order some of the timber tomorrow for the other side. Unfortunately, the annoying neighbour is on the main side, I think we could get away without fencing the other side for ages (heaps of ants on the pavers on that side of the house so she never goes down there)
But we're going to the pool on the weekend to make up for it. K was very definite when we asked her what she wanted to do. Last night we went for a walk and were looking at the waves and DH was talking about taking her swimming in the ocean over summer and she kept shaking her head and saying 'No, pooooool'. I think he was hoping she was going to be a real beach babe, but I'm sure she'll get into once she gets going.
ETA - found some seeds online and I've ordered 3 packets. So if anyone else wants to grow some giant pumpkins, PM me with your address and I'll forward them on when they arrive - 2 spare packets only so be quick!!!
hi girls,
sorry i've been so slack. just finding it really hard to get on here atm.
just wanted to let you all know that i'm still here!
we're going away on tues morning so i'll probably be missing for a while. i might try to jump on in syd for a bit, i'll see how i go.
hopefully i'll get a chance to come on here tomorrow and catch up with everyone properly xoxoxo, otherwise, have a great week and think of me on holidays!!! LOL
i'm back LOL, not from my holiday but managed to get L to have a day-sleep and J is rolling around on the floor trying to crawl so thought i'd quickly jump back on!
We are heading up to sydney for Dh to do the bridge to bridge race, trill i told dh that you said he must be an awesome skiier to be able to do it and he loved it! LOL, had a smile from ear to ear. FWIW he's only doing the 6o mile/hour class, but it's still super fast. we're also treating this holiday as a bit of a 'check out sydney, get a feel for it, see if we could live there' kinda-thing. everything is so up in the air atm, but i can tell you that we are definintely putting this house on the market in march 2011...we're just not 100% sure where we are going to end up. dh is leaning towards a sydney move, i'm leaning towards a melb beachside move...but we have lots of decisions to make. dh wants me to see how i feel about sydney next week, see if we could make the leap. dh's business is going awesome down here though, so that makes him feel like he wants to stay down here- very confusing!!!- he got phone-calls in one day to install 40 split-systems- no joke!
i guess we'll just see what the next few months brings and come up with a decision that is best for all of us i think. certainly our $ can go a lot further down here, so that is one thing that's pulling us to a melb beachside location, also depends on how much we get for this house of course.
anyways, sorry i've been so MIA, it's v hard to come on the computer now that i don;t have the laptop to just plonk onto IYKWIM?
clare- how's your lovely new house going? feel like home?
gosh guys i'm so clucky, i think it must be a sign that my af is returning. what do you think?
dh has gone from being 100% adament (sp?) absolutely no chance in the world of having a 3rd...to agreeing to talk about it when j turns 3. this is a good sign, i'm wearing him down!!! ha ha
do you guys think i'm crazy for wanting number 3?
it's not about wanting a girl either, i would be totally happy either way.....i've already been thinking up names!
Darlink, so not crazy for wanting number 3. I had a dream the other night where I was breastfeeding (wetnursing) a friend's baby. I woke and thought about how much I wanted another baby and also how weird it was that I only fed from my good boob - it's like my subconscious had already processed that the other one wont' be there anymore. My friend who's baby it was in the dream had her first 2 close together, then wore her hubby down, and had their 3rd gorgeous boy when the 2nd was 4.5. Sometimes it's hard for the DHs to go there mentally when the others are still so little and taking up so much of your attention, but as they get a little bigger it seems to make sense again. Talking as someone with a 9 year gap between mine LOL.
Rainy, if you are crazy then so am I. Atm I am completely 50/50 about a third. DH is the same. I suspect it will be decided by our crap attention to contraception lol
Cally, good luck with your pumpkins! Your life is going to be a million times better with an enclosed yard.
Clare, how is the new house going? The pics of it look so lovely.
MD, how is H going with the whole chemo/surgery thing?
md- aawww i like your little story about feeding your friend's bubs with your good boob. i think that when j is 4.5yo would be the perfect time for little number 3 to appear. i'm not chucking away any baby stuff that's for sure!
arte- we are crap at contraception too! atm we are relying on abstinence LOL
Rainy knowing your history no doubt the third is just around the corner
Seriously though I dont think wanting 3 is crazy at all. I would love 3 myself as well. Big families are the best, imagine down the track all your kids and their families around you at christmas time. I say go for it!! As for your beach move, go for that too lol. It does sound a big decision to make though with your DH's business doing so well. You still have time to decide anyway.
Cally - I hear you on the little beach babe. We are slowlllly building up M's confidence with the beach. She seems to like it more each time we go. The fence is a good idea, good luck with it all.
Thanks girls for the well wishes for M's grommets surgery, she did so well. It was a 20 minute surgery, they took us into theatre and they put her to sleep with a gas mask that tasted like strawberries. That was actually very distressing for me to watch as she was crying as it was, she was very wary of the new environment and nurses/drs all in their blue scrubs. So I had to help hold down her arms and reassure her while trying not to cry too while they held the gas mask over her mouth and nose, eventually she gave up struggling and started to nod off. Poor M. Needless to say when she woke up she was inconsoleable for about 20 minutes. Other than that she hasnt had any pain relief since and is back to her normal self. So impressed with the Dr he was very efficient to get her in so quickly and into a public hospital for us, & he was so caring too. Hopefully from here on in we will see barely any earaches if any at all.
MM, I hear you. I have learnt there are many many good people working in our health system. It's when they get worn down (understaffing etc) that they stop caring and the whole thing goes to cr@p. That must've been very distressing for you to see M so upset . Yay that's she's back to her normal self, i hope you see an improvement in her ears straight away. PS I am very impressed with the strawberry gas mask and am gunna ask for one .
Ginger, I have always believed that 4.5 years is the *perfect* age gap. All you gotta do now is lie in wait of your unsuspecting DH for a coupla years .
Arte, since the chemo finished life has returned to normal for H. She knows I'm having surgery but I've already had it twice this year and it wasn't a big deal either time, largely because DH is so good at keeping everything running smoothly when I'm out of action, kwim? I'll fill her in with more of the details closer to the time - the weekend before. I think this time we need to do more explaining to Missy E too, I don't think she noticed my absence so much last time but I'll be in the hospy for 5+ days (with a lot more tubes and cords etc attached) so more significant in her life too.
Just wondering, when you go swimming, what sort of floatation aids do your tods have? We had a back bubble (from DD's earliest swimming lessons LOL) but the buckle has just broken and it's easier to get a new one than go searching for the buckle. Just wondering what you've found to be good (not so keen on arm floaties, generally...)
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Rainy: can i throw a spanner in the works...or rather add another option to your delectable plate of choice for a new home??? soooo you wanna mix beach with sydney...if i had my time again i would SOOOOOOO be packing my bags and going to wollongong. it is soooo beautiful and beachside is so affordable there nowadays...ok, so maybe a block or two from the beach but you get my drift LOL! seriously, it is an easy commute to sydney (CBD is 45 minutes away) and what with all the development from cronulla etc etc i am sure that your DH would never be short of business.....). i HIGHLY recommend it. it is so family friendly it's not funny (they even have a homebirth program run from the hospital!)...
anyway, enough of my tourism exploits LOL!
MM: oh i am so sorry! i totally didnt make the brain connection that the op for M was last week!! i had totally lost track of time and day...
that must have been really tough watching her in the room like that . i would have been finding it also near on impossible to not cry...our babies have a magnificent hold on our hearts dont they?! so happy that she is bouncing back!
MD: you know what is funny? i was talking to a close friend in italy about the age gap between him and his brother (i asked because they get along really really well) and he said they have 4.5 years between them!
Arte: ha ha ha! i wonder how long til we get news of another bun in the oven from you then? LOL! if it's 50/50 it's 100% in my books LOL!
AFM: well, i have been ok-ish. had a difficult last 36 hours emotionally. i feel rather disjointed in that with the arrival of my friends baby and being there and seeing the gorgeous wee poppet it really brought back the memories of how scary that time was for me (what with the PND etc) and i really have felt so sad that i missed out on all those warm and fuzzy and content feelings when she was born (not helped by the fact that we almost lost her on that first day i guess...). arrghhh sorry to dump this on you guys, but you all know me the best on here IYKWIM...so sorry!
Today though we had quite a marvellous idea to go to the beach...HA HA HA HA!!! i forgot that Melbourne really if we get down to the nuts and bolts doesnt have a beach...(Rainy, another reason to go the 'gong...they even have dolphins at their beaches LOL!). we went to st kilda/elwood area and the whole place was filled with condoms, jelly-fish and various plastic rubbish. it was disgusting. never again. that said, we had a great time once we gave up on the beach idea and just walked along the promenade.
Clare you poor thing, pnd is so common, and you didnt ask for it nor expect it. Dont be too hard on yourself, I'm sure L felt the love from day one. Newborns are an overwhelming experience its clear to see how easily pnd can creep up on mums. The good thing to come out of this is that you are aware of what happened with L and next time around you will be better prepared. I'm sure you will get together a good support network around you, and your DH will be the biggest support, he doesnt want you to go through it all again. Try not to feel bad on L's behalf, from the way you write about her and the fun things you do together it sounds as if this time has been well and truly made up for now, you are such an awesome mummy. In a way forget what has happened (but still be aware as I'm sure you will) and look forward to the future and all the love and affection you can show towards L now that you are mentally better, and the same goes for furture bambinos!
MD - Thanks for the well wishes, I agree I have met so many fantastic supportive people in the medical industry since M has arrived - even our GP is fantastic and I can talk to her about anything. As for swimming aids, what about those ones from toys r us and they are like a life jacket, I think they are wavezone or something? I see heaps of kids wearing those.
Gosh I've never used a floaty ring or bubble or anything with the kids, I just don't like any of them - bubbles are a bugger for stopping them getting up if they do end up slipping in the pool and all the vests just seem too bulky. We went swimming the other day and Alister slipped and went under a few times but I just fish him out and away he goes again. I think they can bugger up their water confidence to an extent too - I've known kids get to the stage where they just can't get in the pool without them kwim? Occasionally they use a pool noodle though.
H, I'm happy that it all went well. It's hard to see them go under isn't it?
Clare, oh hun please don't dwell too much on what could have been when you had L. Going through that has made you the mummy you are now and L wouldn't change you for the world.
Clare, I think it's really important that you acknowledge the emotional trauma and grief from that time, now when you are removed from it. Maybe you're ready for another layer of debriefing...this is not a "wallowing" process, but rather a chance to examine then release what happened, grieve for the loss of that time, so you can gently and gradually make peace with it. :hugs:
MM - I was thinking of one of those vests - biut didn't know where to go...will look at ToysR.
Trill, the main reason we had the bubble with DD1 is because that's what they used at swimming lessons, it provides the right amount of buoyancy while still allowing their face etc to be in the water as they learn to swim...but she was a bit older when she started lessons. I'm pretty sure Missy E has plenty of build in floation aids (lots of blubber like her mum LOL) anyway!
Clare, I am sorry that your memories of new baby days are so tainted. I so hope that next time round you get all the warm fuzzies and healing that you deserve. All the disappointment I felt about W's birth has faded away now that I have had a birth the way I wanted and knew that I could do.
Cally, I shouldn't have laughed at K's regimented sleep routine - now W goes to be with a bottle, a hot water bottle that must be in the right place and the picture side up, and now he has claimed A's glowbug toy which needs to be tucked in next to him lol
MD, I am glad that H is handling it well. I would have been a mess at that age if my mum was in your situation. As it was I lost a lot of sleep worrying about what would happen if something happened to her, as I didn't know my father and my only other family is an aunt who was a single mother of three already. Lucky your DH can keep everything going so there is a sense of continuity.
MM, glad M's op went well. Must have been horrible for you though. Is it seriously nearly your 1st wedding anniversary??
Ginger, yay for your seachange where ever you end up. I love being able to decide at the drop of a hat to go boating/bushwalking/picnic at the lake.
W seems to have taken another leap in logic and his sentences are really well constructed now. He still mixes up me/my with you/his but good apart from that. He is sitting on the couch making Cobra's, Toby's and Veltics (fishing lures) out of duplo then casting it out and catching Snapper and Gropers lol.
Amelia is fantastic. She has slept through the past 3 nights - last night she did 9-6! I am thrilled! I put her in the Bumbo yesterday and she can already sit bolt upright in it. I had W in it at this age but he leaned to the side quite a bit. I also tried her in the Jumperoo and she seemed to enjoy that.
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. Yay that's she's back to her normal self, i hope you see an improvement in her ears straight away. PS I am very impressed with the strawberry gas mask and am gunna ask for one 
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