Yesterday I had a feeling something might be up with her because she'd not been on FB and thought that things could be happening for her.
Anyone who doesn't have a will or life insurance set up, please do it first thing tomorrow - it is so important to have these things in place JIC something does happen. We don't actually have any formal custodians for the kids, but we know that DH's parents would take them in. Custody is hard because if there is a dispute and it gets to court, then the court will place them with someone in the best interests of the child, so it may not be who you want them to end up with.
Cass, I'd try some brauers or a probiotic as a pick-me-up for L and see if that helps.
Trill I knew last night something was happening, I just had a feeling and couldn't stop thinking about her.
We have will's and life insurance, its doesn't cost us much. We also have trauma insurance but will be getting rid of that. Do you guys have private hospital? We do but we don't use and are thinking about getting rid of it but I am nervous to do so. In our will's we have my mum as the kids custodians she also has power of attorney for both DH and I.
We haven't set up a power of attorney for each other, we probably should. And a medical power of attorney too so if we need someone to make medical decisions for us they can. Mum and I are setting one up for her because I'm her next of Kin now so once she's out of hospital we're getting it all set up. We do have private health, but we will keep that - its' been a godsend for us.
TBH i just dont know who could take our girls and that makes me really frightened. financially speaking DHs parents could do it, but they are not young (heading into their 70s soon) and well, they are very different from us IYKWIM. my mum could do it, but is very difficult to live with and well, i shudder to think that they would have to go through what i did (man, i sound mean, i love mum, but you know...).
this will require heaps of navel gazing me thinks.
Cass, it is the same for us - Dh's parents are nearly 70 and 65 respectively and well, you know how terrible Mum's health is. But the IL's would still be the best option by far to raise our kids the way we want to. Even if Mum was well, I would still rather that they be with the IL's. It sure isn't an easy thing to decide is it?
We don't have wills or life insurance, I really should organize it. Do I see a solicitor?
I don't know who'd have the girls either. I do know I am very strongly opposed to DHs family having them. He grew up in a house full of domestic violence. Everyone pretends it doesn't/didn't happen and it scares me MIL would fight for the kids and deny the past iykwim.
i am running on mebbe a few hours sleep in the last 48 hours. yes, we are in the midst of 'howcoolisrollingoveromgihaverolledovernowwhatsome onehelpmewaahhhhh' mode with marta ATM. driving me bonkers. no sleep is not fun.
Cass - you made me laugh - what a stage that one is!! Hope you get some sleep soon...
We also dont have a will or anything - think we would want BIL and SIL to take boys, though not sure how they would feel about that with 2 of their own at the same age... its an awful thing to think about. i am sure DH parents would assume it should be them.. and of course i would be more comf w my mum... hmmm.... to think about.
all this news on BB has been sad... dont think i have found the thread re lulu...
we are back from hols -was wonderful and just what we all needed... back to work tomorrow....
bbl to catch up mnore.
Cass, commiserations on the sleep front. Pretty bad here atm but I can see a tooth nearly through so hopefully we will get some sleep soon. I was hoping it was 12 all at once, molars included but nope, it is just one bringing her to a grand total of six teeth. This teething saga is going to last forever!
MP, glad you had a good holiday and less stressful year ahead of you.
JM, I am not sure about wills, but you can do insurance online. I am owner of DH's policy and vice versa.
There really isn't any good option for guardians for our kids, so I am just hoping that at least one of us is still kicking when the last leaves home!
not much to say from here in melbourne. But i am in a bit of shock at the news yesterday afternoon. Seeing Toowoomba under water like that. particularly at the Grand Central (where the footage of the cars going down the road). i have been there a thousand and one times. man, it's like the only place to hang out in toowoomba. i have been crossing that road with Leila many many times. i cannot believe it. I couldnt get through to Opa as the lines were all busy .thankfully the water only got to his back door. i am hoping that there will be no more flooding. afterall he is an 80 year old man on his own. talk about bad dreams last night; i cant stop thinking about those kids
Clare - glad that your Opa is OK. It's all a bit scary isn't it, I can't imagine how you feel knowing the area so well.
MP - glad you had a good holiday.
I'm back at work, really over explaining to people that I don't have the flu, it's just a cough and seeing as I've had it longer than 2 weeks already, going back home to bed is not going to make me better faster than being at work!!
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an new baby!!! congratulations Isa!
.thankfully the water only got to his back door. i am hoping that there will be no more flooding. afterall he is an 80 year old man on his own. talk about bad dreams last night; i cant stop thinking about those kids
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