interesting points ladies. first i totally agree with you rouge. i have a friend who had a baby a few months ago and told me that he cried all the time and she just has to leave him cause he has started to realise that if he cries some one will come to pick him up....he was WEEKS old....i nearly died right there on the spot. God forbid this tiny little person should think that there is someone there for him in the big crazy world! i lent her some books and slipped ''What Every Parent Needs to Know: The Incredible Effects of Love, Nurture and Play on Your Child's Development'' by Margot Sunderland in there. She is a bit different now. but i just couldnt understand how she got to that point of view in the first place.

And secondly i agree with your point G. sometime DD just looses it and needs to have a good cry, i put my arms out for her and she comes in for a big cuddle, after a min she picks her self up, wipes her face, we have a big kiss, i grin at her, she grins at me and we carry on playing.

Good post to start the day.