i am at the point of having a dig at my SIL for laughing at E when she drops the lip. like you've seen Rouge, she is a very passionate little poppet - and when she is insecure, she gets upset - if you talk to her when she drops the lip, she improves - if you laugh at her, she gets upset. i would too! i now just take her back when they do it. i'm hoping they get the message without me saying something - doubt it though.
E already has crying bouts out of frustration - we talk to her through them, pick her up and try to work out what the tantrum is about. i don't disregard them - if she's crying, there is a reason. that reason might simply be that she's tired and needs to feel close to us - so be it. she's still tiny! i've been told i'm making a rod for my own back - stiff - it's my back and i'll make as many rods as i like!
i'll proudly call it a rod Marcellus - rods are sources of strength when they're placed the right way! these rods give me more strength than anything else - they help my convictions to be the bestest mummy i can be!
I have told DP many many many times why I will not allow CIO or have people laugh when DD is upset. Children experience so many new things that often they do not know what to do with the new item that they will cry... I have told DP that yes it is ok for DD to cry (so many people have suggested to him that it is ok for her to cry but they mean CIO... um no!!) so I say to him yes I agree it is ok for her to cry but she needs to know that she is in a loving environment and we are here for her and will help her to process these new things/feeling/experiences.
I also don't understand why it is acceptable to hit children?? Babies are people too!! It is not ok to hit another adult. If you do something wrong at work your boss can't hit you for it!! But for the smallest and weakest of our society this is acceptable JMO
This is a very real issue i have with the older members in my family, especially my mother The denial of the validity of being upset if a child is demonstrating those emotions. It makes my blood ab...sol..utley BOIL! A "tantrum" or groundless fears etc are simply too inconvenient for them it seems. I know my mother especially takes it very personally if a child cries in her presence. Last time my youngest did it she snapped "Stop it!" at him like she does with her dog! Infact she speaks with more kindness to her dog. And this is a woman who is having meltdowns herself on a regular basis. I think she just doesn't like sharing the limelight. Grrrrr.
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