I have told DP many many many times why I will not allow CIO or have people laugh when DD is upset. Children experience so many new things that often they do not know what to do with the new item that they will cry... I have told DP that yes it is ok for DD to cry (so many people have suggested to him that it is ok for her to cry but they mean CIO... um no!!) so I say to him yes I agree it is ok for her to cry but she needs to know that she is in a loving environment and we are here for her and will help her to process these new things/feeling/experiences.
I also don't understand why it is acceptable to hit children?? Babies are people too!! It is not ok to hit another adult. If you do something wrong at work your boss can't hit you for it!! But for the smallest and weakest of our society this is acceptable JMO
This is a very real issue i have with the older members in my family, especially my mother The denial of the validity of being upset if a child is demonstrating those emotions. It makes my blood ab...sol..utley BOIL! A "tantrum" or groundless fears etc are simply too inconvenient for them it seems. I know my mother especially takes it very personally if a child cries in her presence. Last time my youngest did it she snapped "Stop it!" at him like she does with her dog! Infact she speaks with more kindness to her dog. And this is a woman who is having meltdowns herself on a regular basis. I think she just doesn't like sharing the limelight. Grrrrr.
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