DTD!

[Papillon]

Hmmmmmmm

With DD it was 4 weeks Post baby.. with DS it was about 8 week's but that wasnt due to down staires... it was due to my emotional state more than anything! (and the fact we had a 2 year old and a newborn lol )

BUT, feel assured, it does get better and you will enjoy it again! lol after all, like tali said- it must otherwise we would all be one child families

[cocobambino]

We DTD 9 days post birth (c-section) this time around and it was great, just like before..

[sunshine_sieben]

Mmmmm, I think it was about 3 months after the birth. I had no desire to do it before that and DD was pretty much "surgically attached" to me for the first 3 months, so we didn't really get a chance.
I had torn a little bit at the birth, needed 3 stitches. It was a labial tear. But it seems to have healed up perfectly.
I don't remember sex being painful. A little tender, maybe. But it didn't hurt as such. But DH was being a little more careful than usual. Yes, it was true for me that things were a little dry pretty much until my period returned 9 months after DD was born. I do remember being surprised that things felt quite tight down there. I guess I kinda expected it to be all stretched and loose. Even DH commented that they must have stitched me up good (stupid old joke about puting an extra stitch in...grrr).

Anyway, don't worry, it will get better. But it might take a little while. Maybe try some lube? If however it doesn't get better over time, go and see your gynaecologist. Maybe there is another reason behind it.
I hope your partner is understanding and patient.
Sasa

[OceanPrincess]

Thanks everyone for your responses and for being so honest. As always, BB has come through and you've all given me faith that things will return to normal.


If DD behaves herself with going to bed tonight (asking a lot) maybe we'll give it another go.

...I hope your partner is understanding and patient.
Sasa

Yes, he is, very.

[MrsB26]

All i can say is, get some lubricant - it helps.

We dtd 10 weeks pp, i had heaps of stitches and was really scared so i kept avoiding the issue. It actually wasnt as bad as i thought but wasnt exactly pleasent either. We did it more for 'practice' and it was terribly unromantic.

After the 1st time it got better each time but we just took it slow at first for a while.

Have great night

[barney]

ooohhhh this is a terrible feeeling to me knowing we have to try sex again after giving birth c/s or vaginal.
all my kids have been vaginal births,so i know the feeling well i must say i think as much as it really does freeking hurt us ,i also think its got a lot do with our own heads I THINK OUR HEAD JUST REMEMBERS EVERYTHING IT JUST WENT THROUGH AND SAYS 'OH NO WAY THIS IS GONNA HURT'
then i think we also tense up tight knowing 'hey this is gonna hurt again lol'..
take your time hunny GOOD THINGS COME TO THOSE WHO WAIT LOL...

BUT WHEN IT DOES HAPPEN ..HAVE FUN AND RELAX

[*charmalea*]

i made DH wait 6 mths , as soon as DD was 6 mths . i said " oh i suppose i better put out , youve been waiting long enough ! "

oh but really i was pining for it !!

i found it still hurt but prolly not as much as it would have done if we did it earlier ...
take it easy ... you already have him trapped .. no need to DTD all the time now

[AliBaby]

Smithy-I had to keep telling myself in me head "Just relax, just relax".

OP- I really wanted to do it and we tried at 4 weeks and no way was it going in, Hurt way too much!!
Tried again at 6 weeks and it again felt like it was going to hurt but was I think more in my head. I was in control by (sorry for way TMI) being on top. Once we got going, and I relaxed it didnt hurt, It just felt weird and I didnt like it (or really enjoy myself) and I am hoping it gets much better as time goes on and we do it a few more times.