Oh MrsP, tearing sux! I had pretty well 4th degree (no episiotomy) with DD and like you DTD terrified me! I took a long time to heal but also had a broken tail bone to boot so I think that may have cause a lot of my pain too. Going to the toilet took several weeks to not suck my breath in, moving around more freely was about a month but still had to take things VERY slowly ie sitting, putting legs apart etc. DTD about 4 months and that was too soon we discovered. It took about 12 months to feel confident walking and sneezing buuuuut it will all heal eventually