What is the role of suffering?

[Inanna]

Thanks Dachlostar!

From my perspective (I am Buddhist) we should thank those that cause us pain for they are our best teachers.

Suffering is what brings us to our knees - when something doesn't hurt us we don't learn. I don't agree that we learn when all is well - well we do but if we think about our lives. When there is a time of great distress we make a choice. We make a choice to grow, to open our hearts - or to cringe, become bitter and closed. Suffering from a Buddhist perspectives gives us our best chances of growth and expansion. Learned and wise Buddhists can greet difficulty much as an old friend "welcome - I am here to learn from you". But of course this takes courage and stillness of mind.

"Thinking that we can find some lasting pleasure and avoid pain is what in Buddhism is called samsara, a hopeless cycle that goes round and round endlessly and causes us to suffer greatly".

"Ours is a society of denial that conditions us to protect ourselves from any direct difficulty and discomfort. We expend enormous energy denying our insecurity, fighting pain, death and loss, and hiding from basic truth of the natural world and of our own nature."

[Heaven]

We've probably already talked about it in the other thread but I'll add my view (from a Christian perspective) here too.

Firstly, there is suffering in the world because God has given us free will. We can choose what we do and unfortunately some people choose to do bad things that hurt others or themselves.

Also, suffering can serve the purpose of bringing us closer to God. Suffering is inevitable in this world because we all have sinned and because of that we long to be closer to God, for Him to help us through and to receive His promise for eternal life. If there was nothing bad in the world why would we want God? What would we have to gain?

I believe that even in the hardest times those with faith in God will be able to overcome suffering. God can give us hope because we know there is more to life than what we have in this world.

[Bathsheba]

Just briefly as my kids are being too noisey for me to compose anything eloquent ATM:

I'm a better person for having suffered. I believe in the saying "what doesn't kill you makes you stronger". However this doesn't mean I rejoice when others suffer (my logic doesn't extend to believing that suffering is good for other people). When I come across someone who is suffering I know that it is a chance for me to heal myself as well as ease their suffering. Because my suffering has usually been in isolation (of one kind or another) I cannot bear to see others suffering in isolation.

I don't become overly distressed by "needless suffering" when i am functioning on a 'higher plane'. It upsets my 'day to day' me... but ultimately I know that no suffering is pointless. I trust God's plan enough to believe that somehow all suffering makes sense. Perhaps there are spirits in the Heaven dimension who choose to improve themselves... maybe they know that a certain type of suffering on Earth is just what they need to be a little closer to perfection. So maybe they are the spirits who return to Earth as babies in Third World countries who die slow painful deaths of malnutrition? This is not to say we should therefore be more accepting of this kind of suffering. The opposite holds true: it is better for OUR spirit to ease the suffering of dying children. In the broader scheme of things Gods will celebrate either outcome. If the child dies then the spirit of that angel has been improved but if the child survives then the spirit will have further opportunity to improve anyhow.

Does this make any sense? I have a toddler demading "more apple juice!!!" at the top of his lungs now LOL better go deal.

[Visitor3]

oK my understanding from reading prior posts is suffering equals learning and you'll reap the rewards in heaven if you go through suffering here on earth. The more you suffer the nicer heaven will be ? Doesn't sound like much of a master plan to me ? I'm sorry I just don't and can't accept that. Suffering brings me further and further away from GOD because someone who loves me, should surely want to protect me not watch me starve and die for example?

[Heaven]

oK my understanding from reading prior posts is suffering equals learning and you'll reap the rewards in heaven if you go through suffering here on earth. The more you suffer the nicer heaven will be ?

If you're talking from a christian perspective (which I think you are from other posts you've written) then no heaven won't be nicer for you if you suffer more.

I think suffering does equal learning for some people, from experiences I've heard others share and from my own. But I think it all depends on how you look at things aswell iykwim?

[Bathsheba]

PB: I see God as like a parent. Sometimes a parent has to allow a child to suffer so they can learn. As parents is it really our role to protect our children from all suffering? When my child desperately wants the lolly that another child has should I make sure he gets one every time? I refuse and my child will scream until they are blue in the face... but I know that if my child gets a lolly that the consequences won't be positive. I think we are like children sometimes.... we scream and scream wanting things that God in his wisdom knows is for something that is not right for us. Being loving is not being kind. A "kind" God would prevent us from making mistakes... would that really be in our best interests?

[Visitor3]

I know what you're saying in terms of discipline. But I'm talking about the big picture. A child vomiting thier own bile and dying because they are starved is not really the same as not giving your child a lolly, although I know what you're trying to say. But then in saying the "lolly" metaphor it negates free will doesn't it ?

I understand that sure you need to put in an effort in life to get what you want and you may not always get it which may mean perservering, but what I'm talking about is the role of children suffering which is vastly different.

[Rouge]

I don't think suffering just relates to heaven (as not all faiths believe in heaven anyway). I think learning from the bad helps us to appreciate and see the good. Its like yin and yang. If everything was all peachy all the time and we never knew what it was to experience loss, abuse, pain etc And in turn perhaps not be so kind to others.

I am not very religious per-say, but I still believe that the worlds suffering does bring us closer to each other, and helps us to grow as people. Some people choose to learn and grow from their suffering, others choose to wallow in it and blame a deity, or their parents or their life for the choices they now make. This is still a choice.

I have had some pretty awful things happen to me and to those around me and I honestly would not change a day in my life. I like who I am and the principles and morals I have as a result of my life experience. Yes some days were pretty crappy, and sometimes I thought it wasn't "fair" but with my pain I have been able to grow, teach others how to grow and love and protect my family as best I can.

I really don't like the word suffering, as to me that is victim speak. I may have had some pretty bad times but if I am to look at my life now I certainly haven't "Suffered" as a result.