I don't think suffering just relates to heaven (as not all faiths believe in heaven anyway). I think learning from the bad helps us to appreciate and see the good. Its like yin and yang. If everything was all peachy all the time and we never knew what it was to experience loss, abuse, pain etc And in turn perhaps not be so kind to others.

I am not very religious per-say, but I still believe that the worlds suffering does bring us closer to each other, and helps us to grow as people. Some people choose to learn and grow from their suffering, others choose to wallow in it and blame a deity, or their parents or their life for the choices they now make. This is still a choice.

I have had some pretty awful things happen to me and to those around me and I honestly would not change a day in my life. I like who I am and the principles and morals I have as a result of my life experience. Yes some days were pretty crappy, and sometimes I thought it wasn't "fair" but with my pain I have been able to grow, teach others how to grow and love and protect my family as best I can.

I really don't like the word suffering, as to me that is victim speak. I may have had some pretty bad times but if I am to look at my life now I certainly haven't "Suffered" as a result.