15 weeks and buns gone :(

[Willow]

Hun, it's not idiocity, it's grief

Maybe not today, but in the future you will cherish that photo of your son.

[Early Kids]

Hospital didn't do anything I went there with cramping, bleeding and told them I think my waters broke and I got sent home with panadene fort and told to go home, went home, slept for an hour then woke up in a pool of blood and went to the toilet and there was bubs still attached to me... I screamed for DP, he came running and said whats wrong, I said Im not pregnant anymore, he asked how and I opened the door and said because Im holding our dead baby... he was devistated. I wasn't given any counselling support just a booklet on "early pregnancy, when things go wrong" pretty much gives you a definition of the different types of miscarriage then says you didn't do anything wrong and 95% of women have a healthy baby next time around. That's all, I'm young so I "shouldn't be worried I have plenty time"

I'm really sorry, that should not have happened to you.

I'm disgusted in the hospital

[Miss.B]

Oh sweetheart, I am so very sorry you have lost your little boy Dylan May he always watch over his mummy and daddy. I am so glad you took his little picture, I know you will treasure it for the rest of your life, in time. I often look at Joshua's photos, I just feel so close to him then.
Please, please seek some support hun, you will need it. When I had my own loss at 20 weeks, I was numb for a while and then forced myself to go to SANDS, and that was such a positive step forward. I also started seeing a psychologist a month or so after I lost Joshua and still see her today. I think you might be able to see a free councillor through Medicare, but I'm not sure.
Take care hun, thinking of you and your partner.
Beata xxx

[~Jayne~]

I'm so sorry for you that you had to go through that, nobody should ever have to go through anything as traumatic as that. Words escape me, but I just want you to know that we are all thinking of you.

[csab]

It is not idiotic to have taken a photo of your angel baby, you will most definately treasure this photo. Please take care huni, and I really hope your boss has grown a heart. Loads of hugs.

[HotI]

Hi Sweetie, I'm sorry for the loss of your little man.

If you feel like you want to talk to someone, there are contact phone numbers on the SANDS (Stillbirth and Neonatal Death Support) website sands.org.au or your local GP might be able to let you know what is avaailable in your area.

take care,

k

[Bun]

CM, I am so so sorry

The treatment you received from the hospital was appalling, it should never have been like that. There are some fantastic support groups out there (like SANDS) that you should have been told about, please phone them if you need to talk to someone, they really are so so helpful.

As the others have said, it is a good thing that you took a photo of your angel boy, you may well be glad that you did one day.

And stuff work! You need to have some time off to grieve, so don't hurry back, regardless of how much leave you have. Give yourself some time, that is so important right now.

Thinking of you and sending you my support sweetie

[Jas]

I am so sorry for your loss

[Isadora]

CM I am devastated for you!!! Why did this have to happen?

Having a photo of your son is important, it will bring back sad memories for a long time to come I'm sure of that, but as time goes on you will be glad that you have something to remember him by.

I'm so sorry for that horrible treatment you got at the hospital.

How did things all go in the end, did you need a hysterectomy etc?

I'm so very sorry.

[hayles07]

Oh I am so sorry...

[LadyRaven]

No in the end when I wasn't backing down that I REALLY wanted to keep my uterus they said they would try their hardest not to and I came home mostly in tact.

I said to someone I know that I would probably have to be in Monday, they saw my boss and said I thought I had to be in Monday so he rung and baned me from work. He said it will all be covered under grievance leave which is all unpaid of course so no money to pay the bills more stress but at least I dont have to worry about leave..

[mbear]

I cannot even imagine what you have been thru.

I hope you find the support you need...but know you have people here to talk to too.

[Samcougar]

Big hugs hun, i'm so sorry about your loss and that you were treated badly at the hospital.

[Inanna]

Oh CM I am so very sad to read of the sad loss of your son - you gave him a lovely name. I understand some of how difficult and painful this time is. It is lovely that you could take a photo of him - it is something that in time will be a treasure for you.

I am sending you love and support as you go through this time - lean on us all in here. Big big hugs honey...

[Inanna]

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[human bean]

I am so sorry for your loss and for all that you have been through

[luna moth]

I am so so sad to hear about you losing your precious baby. I'm really glad you took a photo of him though; it will give you one more beautiful way to remember him, when you feel ready to look at it.

I wish that your work had handled this better. Take as much time off as you need; but you are the only person who gets to say when you're ready to go back. Nobody bans you from work, and nobody forces you to go. If you feel ready to go back on Monday, then do it. If you don't feel ready for another 3 weeks, then don't do it.

Big big BIG HUGS...

[AwesomeFoursome]

I am so so sorry for your loss. The treatment you received from the hospital was appalling. Knowing that hospital I'm not surpised sadly. Sent you a PM.