Blighted Ovum - inducing miscarriage

[cherie26]

I am so sorry for your loss.
I had a missed miscarriage at 11.5 weeks picked up on our 12 week scan. I had started spotting and had to wait 2 days for my d&C and during that time the pain increased as did the passing of clots so I was glad I had the D&C done as I can imagine how much more painful it would have been to completly miscarriage. i also chose the D&C as my ob advised me as it would be quite painful due to the size of the baby as well as distressing to see any of the baby come out (which unfortunaltley the moring of the d&c I did see some and it was very upsetting sorry if tmi)
At the end of the day you need to do what is best for you as choosing a d&c is a hard decision ti make also as unfortunatley we all know hoe the baby is removed and that was most upsetting for me but I just wanted it to be over at the time.
Take care:hugs:

[belfie]

Hi MummyTwo,

I'm so sorry to hear about your loss - sending you big hugs.

Late Oct last year I had a missed m/c at about 10.5 weeks (but size of embryo I think was only about 6-7 weeks). I had no m/c symptoms at all - discovered it at a scan, my obs offered to do a suction curette on the day, to which I said "eep, no way" (need adjustment time!). I had the curette 4 days later - physically I found it very good, no probs with anaesthetic (which I've had in the past) and no pain/cramps at all. Bleeding afterwards was on & off for about 16 days, passing some smallish clots on about day 15th (which I found distressing). I was glad I did it rather than waiting for my body to catch-up with what was going on. I found it easier to move on (with the phsyical stuff at least!) & not have it hanging over my head wondering when it would happen. My obs also recommended that I do the curette rather than waiting.

My cycle re-started (kinda) by late Nov, and was regular from then... so recovery to normal cycle was pretty quick for me... plus conceiving again (in mid-Jan).

I don't know anything about the pessaries.

All the best for whichever option you choose - I'm thinking of you.
:hugs:
Belfie

[tempus moriendi]

I don't have any advice. Just want to say I'm sorry for your loss and pain and I'll be praying for you.

[HH Mama]

Hi Mummy Two. I recently had a blighted ovum for my first preg (in DEc) that was picked up at my first ob appt at week 11. it was devastating. I had to wait a week for a D&C which was an awful time. The D&C was quick, painless and i think very good at giving me the opportunity to say goodbye to our little one. I got an infection from some tissue that had been deeply embedded and had to have a second D&C a week later. It was an exhausting experience but i remember the few mins before my first surgery, and being able to say goodbye to my baby. I dont think any option is easy (and perhaps you've made your choice now!) but i found it really really important to have a clear cut time to say goodbye and start to grieve. The hospital staff are usually really supportive and understanding, which i found really great as many of our friends were not.

this is an awful, grieving time and my thoughts are with you. Please feel free to ask for any help and advise. im not sure how much i can offer but i truly understand how you feel. its a very personal and private time.

[nelly]

Hi Mummy Two

I am really sorry for your news - I know how gutting it can be to find your pg is not "normal".

I had a D&C in Nov 2005 after my pg was diagnosed as molar at 11 wks. There was no option to not to D&C due to various reasons and I had my procedure the next day.

I found it really simple and quick, the hospital staff were amazing - I was a mess and was basically sobbing the whole time before the procedure - and my OB was amazing.... I remember my DH telling me he gave him a hug once I went into the OT.

Anyway I digress - in terms of physical recovery I had no cramping very little spotting and I found it easier to cope with the loss. In comparison my sister miscarried at 6 weeks and found it painful and protracted but everyone has a different experience.

Good luck with your decision.