I am so sorry for your loss.
I had a missed miscarriage at 11.5 weeks picked up on our 12 week scan. I had started spotting and had to wait 2 days for my d&C and during that time the pain increased as did the passing of clots so I was glad I had the D&C done as I can imagine how much more painful it would have been to completly miscarriage. i also chose the D&C as my ob advised me as it would be quite painful due to the size of the baby as well as distressing to see any of the baby come out (which unfortunaltley the moring of the d&c I did see some and it was very upsetting sorry if tmi)
At the end of the day you need to do what is best for you as choosing a d&c is a hard decision ti make also as unfortunatley we all know hoe the baby is removed and that was most upsetting for me but I just wanted it to be over at the time.
Take care:hugs: