blighted ovum misunderstanding

[butterfly_warrior]

It doesn't matter that in reality a baby never formed. In your heart and mind it was there... and it's just as much a loss as any other miscarriage. The reality in your heart and soul is so very different to the physical reality, and nothing can ever change the fact that for you it is a devestating loss.

I am so sorry that you have gone through this, and so sorry that you have insensitive friends that don't get it.

BW

[feeb]

Ohh thats horrible so sorry you have been throught that and so sorry your friend was so rude!!

I have had a blighted ovum and no matter what it is a loss of pregnancy, you thought u were preg the bloods and wee tests confirm that but ultrasound shows other things.

Huge hugs and hope you get a happy and healthy preg very soon!

xoxoox

[AJC]

tina - that was really rude and insensitive of her. I've had 2 x m/c one was a blighted ovum and I grieved for both pg loss just the same. Why couldn't she just keep her mouth shut - obviously she's lucky enough not to have gone through it herself so she has no idea!

[Inanna]

I am so sorry Tina for the loss of your little one...

A blighted ovum starts out life just like any other baby but then fails to multiply at a cellular level. Your little one in your heart was your baby - and it was..

When we wee on that stick and get a positive a whole gamut of plans and dreams come to us. We build up a life around those two little lines on a stick.

The grief when that baby dies or doesn't grow affects us all differently. For most of us it is devastating and painful.

I am so sorry that those around you have been so insensitive to that pain. Sending you lots of love.

[aussienic]

My first mc was a blighted ovum.. It hurt when people would say well it was just a bunch of cells at least it wasn't a real baby

To us it was a real baby..Regardless

[Tobily]

I've got news for your friend - I miscarried a developing baby at 10 weeks and I've also had a blighted ovum.
Both of those miscarriages were equally devastating and traumatic...
It's hard not to listen when people say stupid things like that out of nothing but sheer ignorance

[Evie76]

Tina. I had a blighted ovum too. Your heart doesn't discriminate. You were pg and looking forward to having someone in your life. It is a loss that your heart still has to deal with - no matter what your head (or other extremely insensitive people) may say.

My heart still feels the loss and so will yours. There is nothing wrong with that.