Mrs G - i'm so sorry to hear about your loss - it's heartbreaking when something like this happens to you, and there is no way that you can prepare yourself for the heart ache. i am hoping for your sake that nature takes it's course and that you don't need to have the d&c - cost aside - having the d&c means you may need to wait a little longer to start trying again

as for how to prepare or give yourself confidence heading for number 3 - i don't think there is a set answer for that one - you need to allow yourself time to grieve your baby - get angry, cry, let the hurt out as much as you need to - and then one day you'll find that the fear of being pregnant again isn't there as much as it was the day before, or the desire to be pregnant again will be strong - and you'll know that, as much as it hurts to think of what might go wrong, you're ready to take that step toward fulfilling your dream.

i too have suffered multiple losses - most recently a very early loss last weekend - for me, i need to take the steps to start assisted conception straight away, because i know if i wait, my fears will overcome my desire to be a parent, and it will be far too hard to make a decision in a few months to go back - i am by no means 100% confident that i'm making the right decision, or that i will not be a bundle of nerves when we start again - but that is ME and what is right for MY circumstances - yours may be very different and you need to do what is right for you

hun my heart goes out to you. take care of yourself and give yourself time to grieve

BG