Amanda - So sorry for your loss. I have dealt with the private system before with my first m/c. I was 16wks. My water had broken and the private hospital turned me away, even after being told the previous week by them that if I needed anything, if anything was wrong to contact them. They told my DH to take me to the public hospital as there was nothing they could do. By the time I got to the hospital I had haemmoriged and had several people working on me. I ended up with a blood transfusion and the D & C. After having the private hospital turning me away, I cancelled my health fund and stuck with public care, I had all the care in the world provided to me, the support as well, not like the private hospital. It really turned me off private care. I since then had another m/c and 2 ceasers with public care. My first two were also public care.
Take care and just know that we are here for you. Hugs.