Devastated after 2nd miscarriage

[MeredithD]

I am so sorry to hear of your losses. It just gets more painful every time.
I have now had 3 m/c's, losing 4 babies so i DO know what you are going through. Things will seem better with time. Everyome is different, but i know for me, TTC again gave me something positive to focus on and really helped me to move forward. I don't cycle naturally so have gone back to AC whenver Drs gave me the ok (usually 8weeks or so post m/c). There is no proof that TTC straight away will increase risk of m/c but I personally feel your body does need to heal and get the lining etc back ready to sustain a pregnancy.
Best of luck for next time.
BTW - are you geting any tests done on yourselves or the baby you have just lost? After two m/c's, it might be worthwhile ruling out any underlying causes.

[LisaL]

Hi sweety,
I am so sorry for your loss and im sending you a massive hug.

I had one ectopic pg and one natural m/c. After my natural m/c I had one normal cycle and then fell pg. The third pg was lucky for me and I now have a gorgeous 8mo DD, however I did have spotting at 7wks and then a threatened m/c at 14wks with DD. Sometimes it is just a matter of bad luck, but as Meredith notes that it may be worth getting checked out to be sure. Maybe have a chat to your OB and get some info on the types of tests that can be done and whether your OB thinks its worth going down that path.

TTC again after m/c shouldnt be a matter of cycles, you should do it when you feel ready.

Take care of yourself, and dont give up hope. Hope is what kept me going during my 1.5yr ttc journey.

Lisa XX

[mummytobeinnovember]

Thankyou to everyone for your well wishes and prayers, it's so appreciated.

I had my D&C this morning, it was heartbreaking, I couldn't believe I was having to go through with such an awful experience. The good news is that it's over and now we can start the healing process again, day by day.

We're not church goers although I do have faith but felt compelled to go to church today and light 2 candles for my angels watching over us from heaven.

The doctor hasn't suggested any tests yet, he said that he would only suggest it after 3 miscarriages and that even then in 90% of cases nothing can be proven, and that there is little science can do for the remaining 10%.

I'm meeting with him in 2 weeks to discuss progesterone and any other options available but would like a second opinion from a tried and tested fs too, anything to give us our long awaited baby.

[LisaL]

Sweety I am so sorry that you had to go through this, and I pray and hope that its third time lucky for you. For now, you take care of yourself and I love the fact that you lit candles for your little angels, Im sure they are together and hugging your heart so it doesnt break into a million pieces. Know that the little angel babies always stay with their mother and even when you are holding your long awaited baby, your little angels will be there too, smiling down on their earth bound sibling.

Hugs and baby blessings to you my dear,
Lisa

[cheekyfrog]

I'm so sorry for your loss of your second baby. Sending you special healing vibes and I hope that you're surrounded by all the love and support you need right now.

I've had two miscarriages plus a couple of chemical pregnancies that didn't progress. After my miscarriage last year, I waited for AF to return after my D&C and that took ten weeks, and then it took another six cycles before I fell pregnant again. I also had tests done to see if there was a reason for my miscarriages. Nothing showed up as having contributed to them. This time I had my progesterone levels monitored initially and I've been taking 100mg aspirin daily. It's still been an anxious pregnancy but I'm hoping that I'll be able to relax and enjoy it soon!

Good luck with your journey and may it be filled with much joy.