thread: Feeling empty

  1. #1
    Registered User

    Aug 2008
    Gold Coast, Australia
    8

    Feeling empty

    Hi, I have just found your website and have found it to be very comforting.

    I lost my baby last Thursday night. I thought I was 10 weeks preganant, I had bleeding, went to the doctor only to be sent for a scan to be told that I actually lost our baby 2 weeks ago. This news was a shock as I never thought this was going to happen to me. I was thinking positive thinking that everything was going to be ok, maybe my body was just telling me to slow down.

    I was told there was no heartbeat, im sure you ladies all understand, this is very much a shock to the system. My doctor was very kind, she told me to go to the hospital in the morning. meanwhile my body had decided that enough was enough and i started to miscarry my baby. i would never wish this upon my worst enemy!!!

    Tomorrow I go back to the hospital for a scan, hopefully my body will have expelled all...
    im hoping you ladies can assure me that there is hope that i can have a baby in the future, that there is hope out there, that i can get out of this ok....

    thank you, kitty cat

  2. #2
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    Nov 2007
    in Love!
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    Kitty Cat,

    I am so sorry for you loss - I lost my first bub at 6 weeks, so I definatly know what you are going through, and no owman should ever have to go through it.
    You need to take care of your self and take timer to greive and let your body heal.
    You will go on to have your much longed for bub - I fell a month after my misscarrage so it is possible!
    Good luck with it all and know that it does get easier - you never forget but it gets easier.
    Welcome to Belly Belly - its a great place to be.
    Love
    Kate

  3. #3
    Registered User

    Jul 2007
    melb
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    Sorry to hear about your loss.

    I lost my first at 8 weeks its a terrible thing to go through.

    Belly belly is a great place for support.

    Rest up allow yourself to grieve and surround yourself with loving people.

  4. #4
    BellyBelly Member

    Jan 2006
    Coburg -Melbourne
    655

    Kitty - No words are enought to console after the shocking loss of a baby, however I will say it anyway... I am so, so sorry.
    No one should ever have to go through a scan and see their dead baby. It is soul destroying!
    Don't look to closely at my sig for confidence as I am not a total success story but, the positive news for you is that you have a VERY good chance of a successful pg next time around. The majority of m/c's are 'one offs" and most women never have another. Even I have managed one gorgeous, healthy child despite many losses.
    The coming weeks will be tough, there is no doubt but time will ease the pain and you will move forward at your own pace. Come in here and speak with the wonderful women who truly understand the depth of your grief.

  5. #5
    Registered User

    Dec 2007
    Geelong
    3,438

    Hi Kitty Cat,
    Welcome, so glad you found BB. Sorry for the loss of your baby, this is a really terrible time for you. You will find lots of support and encouragement here on BB. Wishing you all the best.

    Regards,
    Dianne

  6. #6
    Registered User

    Aug 2008
    Gold Coast, Australia
    8

    Thank you ladies. Its nice to be among people who understand.

    x

  7. #7
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    Nov 2004
    Chasing Daylight...
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    Hi Kittycat. I'm so sorry for your loss

  8. #8
    Registered User

    Aug 2004
    Sth East Melbourne
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    Kitty cat my first preg ended exactly as you described - heart had stopped at 8 weeks but i had no signs till 10 weeks - then had the terrible bleed etc - i ended up still having to hace a D& C though as -even though i have never seen so much bloody in my life as what i lost with my m/c - i had lost only about half of what needed to be expelled.

    Bellybelly got me through my m/c .....

    All the best of wishes, i am sooo sorry to hear of you loss. Please know that we are all here for you 24/7 when you need to talk

  9. #9
    Registered User

    Jan 2008
    Busselton
    218

    hey, sorry to hear about your loss. I know exactly how you feel, losing a first pregnancy, it is scary, wondering if you will ever end up with a baby, and the emptiness. But there is hope for a bubba in the future - and all the heartache is definately worth it in the end. IU have gone on tyo have 2 precious little bubs myself, although it has been tough.

    best wishes for the future

  10. #10
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    Oct 2007
    Brisbane
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    Waterlily it is great to see that you went on to have successful pregnancies.
    I lost my son last week at 19 weeks and he was my first pregnancy via IVF.
    Thanks for your story.
    Adele

  11. #11
    Registered User

    Oct 2007
    Brisbane
    320

    Kitty cat I am with you sweetheart. You would not wish this experience on anyone. I wish you all the best and hope you can draw support from BB. This site is amazing and it makes such a difference to get information from people who have been in your shoes.
    May you heal soon honey
    Adele

  12. #12
    Registered User

    Aug 2008
    Gold Coast, Australia
    8

    Thanks for your support. I ventured out into the public yesterday (im sure you all understand how hard this can be for the first time). I was worried how I would react when I saw a little baby. Anyway, I have been reading many of the stories on this site and one wonderful lady told of how she coped. She didnt feel jealous, instead she thought to herself, that mother may have had a mc before having her little one. You dont know what other people have been thru before they get their perfect little baby. Anyway, it helped me and I hope it will help anyone else feeling a bit down about having to venture out and be "normal" again. x

  13. #13
    Registered User

    Oct 2006
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    Your so right, anyone may have gone thru the loss of a child, even one with 2 healthy daughters like myself.

    I have 2 baby angels in heaven.

    I'm so sorry you lost your precious baby.

    All the best for your future.

    Cheers,

    Beck

  14. #14
    Registered User

    Dec 2006
    In the Angelic Realm
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    Dear KittyKat,

    I am so sorry for your loss. I know how damn hard it is to come to terms with a loss of a baby no matter how early in the pregnancy it is. You will carry your angel baby in your heart all the time.

    Goodluck hun. You will fall pregnant again, don't worry.

  15. #15
    Registered User

    Aug 2008
    Gold Coast, Australia
    8

    strep b related to miscarriage???

    hello ladies,

    ive been back to my doctors and ive got strep b again. does anyone else suffer from this? ive had it several times and my doctor said they dont know if strep b causes miscarriage or not. just wondering if anyone else out there has any light to shed on the subject.

    kind regards,

    kitty cat

  16. #16
    Registered User

    Feb 2008
    Down Under
    1,617

    hi kittykat,
    i found out i had strep b with my first pregnancy, i dont think it really affected me (i dont really know much about it) i had to have a drip when i went into labour thats about all i know.

    i havnt ever had a m/c but a few of my close friends have and like you said i would never wish it on my worst enemy. i hope you find the strength to get through this difficult time.

  17. #17
    Registered User

    Jul 2004
    Perth
    1,864

    Sorry to hear of your loss and what you are going through right now

    Chances are you will go on to have another baby

    Sending you lots of strength right now.

  18. #18
    Registered User

    Aug 2008
    Gold Coast, Australia
    8

    thank you

    Thanks for your support and kind words Kristi and Laura.

    I cant wait to have my own little baby. like you said, it will happen

    x