Mel, thank god she has a friend like you around to support her in this. I know when my sister lost her baby, she didn't want anyone around, but then she got offended because everyone stayed away!!!! Maybe you could start with something like text messages or something? Not so in your face as a visit or a telephone call, and she has the power in her hands to decide whether she is up to communicating with you. I'm sure you would be of great comfort to her, being with her daughter from the start of her life and everything. I wish you all the luck. Take care.