I'm so sorry for your loss, especially at this time of year. I had a d&c last friday because our baby had no heartbeat at 8 weeks. It's a very traumatic experience and my heart goes out to you. I completely understand about wanting to know if its a boy or girl because I asked my doctor to tell me too when the tests come back. We want to try again as soon as we can not to replace our first baby but because I feel it will help. You have to do what your ready to do and not listen to anyone else. You'll be in my prayers and stay strong.