BW i wouldnt even know half of what you have been through but after reading your post i too cant believe that this person could be so insensative and cruel. I am really sad that people in this world can be so miss informed and have no respect for others peoples feelings.The support from your friends here at BB is amazing and i am glad there are people out their willing to give support to you and be great friends.
I hope you come to a decision you are happy with but at the same time dont let them get away from hurting you.Maybe a formal letter of how disgusted you are at them may help? Even to get it off your chest.
I also wanted to ask if i could pm you with a question regarding immunity and sensativities? Thanks BW.