Hannah - So sorry for your loss To answer your question - how do you mourn something the size of a paperclip, I guess you need to put it into perspective. Yes, that bub was tiny, but it was still your bub, a part of you and your DH. What you mourn is the lost dreams that you had for that bub and the family you become.

After I had my m/c, my GP actually said to me "you've lost a child" and he was right. For us, our little bub was a dream, we had TTC for ten long years, our close friend had been murdered a month before we found out we were pg, it was like a message from her, we had decided on our bub's name. We felt that bub was a girl and were already deciding how to fit her into our two bedroom home with two big brothers. We saw our bub's flitting heartbeat, our bub had also failed to thrive, at 8w, she was the size of a 6w.

Everyone grieves differently and there is no "right" or "wrong" way. You do what you need to for yourself. You will find that some days or just fine and others you just don't want to get out of bed or you'll find yourself crying over nothing. You'll look at pg women and wish that was you. Probably a good idea to talk to someone even to work out why you don't want to mourn.