I am back in here trying to make some sense of what is happening. I have just suffered my 3rd miscarriage and while I try to stay strong I must admit this time has really knocked me around. Every time I think this is going to be it, just for it to end and we are left with the prospect of trying again. It is really starting to wear me down. I have had lots of tests and all I keep hearing is that it is just really bad luck. I am starting to believe it will never happen, or maybe it's just not meant to be. Life at the moment is a struggle and I am finding it hard to find any meaning to anything! What is making it worse is that I am surrounded everyday by children due to my job and it's starting to be extremely hard to bear. I would really like to hear from women who may have been through similar experiences.
I havent been in your position exactly... however, i had my first M/C 2 weeks ago. It was heart breaking and i am truly sorry you are going through it for a 3rd time! And to have no answer's as to why must be even worse..
I dont know whatelse to say except, i am sorry and i am thinking of you xo
I am so sorry for your 3 losses laluna , life is just not fair sometimes. I can't imagine suffering three m/c, I have had one late one and I couldn't imagine going through it again (late or early). But I am trying, and will keep on trying until I have a baby in my arms to take home to love and spoil.
You are are a very strong woman to keep going after your first and then second m/s, that takes guts and determination, not to mention a lot of love in your heart.
I wish you so much happiness in the future, you are so deserving of your own little bundle of joy, I pray and wish it will happen for you hun. Please have faith, and be strong. I pray for your broken heart to be healed again.
Love
Beata xxxx
Sweetie, I am so sorry to hear this. I know exactly how you feel. I had 2 m/cs and a chem pregnancy before finally having DD and I also struggled a lot. I thought we would never have a child of our own and had started researching adoption and trying to come to terms with never having the family I had always wanted.
3 months later I was pg with DD. I won't lie to you - pregnancy is not easy after multiple m/c and I was convinced I would m/c again, but I didn't! I also had a lot of tests done and was told there was nothing wrong and it was just bad luck, but I had so much trouble believing this.
Honey, please please please believe me that IT CAN HAPPEN! I never thought it would and now I have my beautiful DD who amazes me every time I look at her. I remember how hard it was to think I would ever get to the other side and I remember how much I hated being told to try again as it was just bad luck, but it turns out that it was just that.
I am always here if you need to talk. I know it used to help me a lot to come across people who had been in the same situation and then gone on to have the baby they dreamed of and I hope I can now help you like so many helped me when I was going through this.
Oh sweetheart i am so sorry for your loss. I have 'only' had one m/c and that knocked me so badly. I cant imagine what you are going through or how you find the energy for anything! Sending you all my strength and i am praying that it is your turn to hold a baby soon!
Laluna - i am so sorry to hear of your losses, it is so devastating and soul destroying. Whilst reading your post it felt as though i could have written it! I too suffered three miscarriages last year, i had the tests and like you, was told it was just bad luck! This wasnt good enough for me, one loss was bad luck, perhaps even two. But three!! there had to be something wrong! (i also work with children on a daily basis so i know how hard it can be seeing them everyday when all you want to do is see your own!!) I was in the process of finding a private fertility specialist when i fell pregnant for the fourth time and so far everything is perfect. I still have a long way to go and as Bun has already said..its not easy! I have to battle my fears on a daily basis but it is all worth it.
Please dont give up
Also, i asked my gyno for progesterone supplememts before i became pregnant this time. He agreed, although there is no proof that they help. I have no idea if they did indeed help or if it is just a coinsidence but i think that sometimes just thinking that you are doing 'something' to help can have a very positive effect. Might be worth a try?
Laluna - my heart goes out to you. M/c is so much more traumatic than society "allows" it to be, Recurrent m/c is simply hell, yet still so poorly supported even by the medical community.
You are suffering true grief and need to be allowed to work through that as would anyone who has lost , not only one but 3 loved ones. Multiple loss does not somehow lessen the impact, it actually compounds the grief of each loss whilst the support around you can tend to dwindle.Don't let anyone tell you you can "just try again" or "at least you can get pg". Its so unhelpful when all you want is your babies back. I hope you have a supportive family/friend network around you or at least can find some comfort in here. Seek counselling if you feel comfortable. Don't underestimate your feelings... they are very real and soul destroying
I have had 2 m/c's then my DS, then another 2 m/cs and possibly may be losing another right now.
Having "all" the tests isn't always so simple and you may need to make yourself far more informed to be sure you truly have been tested for everything. After my last (4th) m/c, I looked into it all further and have had some more testing (for Natural killer cells) done in Sydney. This test can ONLY be done properly in Sydney even if a Melb Dr says they have tested you for it. I am on some extra meds this pg but given things aren't going so well atm, can't say they are actually working for me.
Some people have great success, however, so worth looking into.
Also, just wondering if you had your babies tested for any chromosome disorders?
I wish I had the magic "answer" for you but still searching myself. things will get easier in time and you do still have a very good chance of bringing a live baby into this world
Meridithd,
Thank you for your response. I have had tests done for chromosonal disorders and all has been well. These tests were done after the first two mc's.
My thoughts and love go to you and all you have been through and what you may be going through now. Thank you for taking the time to respond to me when you are experiencing your own terrible pain and disappointment. I hope all turns out well for you.
Laluna
awww sweets I am so so sorry for your loss. Like you I have been through multiple m/c - currently experiencing my 4th and have had a mulitude of tests to be told that they can't find anything wrong "next time will be your time". I am currently at the point where i don't know where to turn and what to do. I am experiencing such a mixed bag of emotions like yourself. Big hugs to you and i hope that one day soon you get to realise your dream and become a wonderful proud mum to a precious bundle of joy. xx kirst
Your wish for me is returned to you 10 fold. There are days when you think you are coping and days when the world is crashing down around you. I think we all have to find our own way through and hope that one day ours dreams will be realised.
My thoughts are with you.
xx laluna
Reply With Quote. I wish I had words to take your pain away.
I can't believe it!
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so far everything is perfect. I still have a long way to go and as Bun has already said..its not easy! I have to battle my fears on a daily basis but it is all worth it.
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