I'm so sorry for your pain. I hope you find closure and healing. Sending a cyberhug.

As for your father in law, while it's true that sometimes people just put their foot in their mouth, when he saw it upset you he should have STOPPED. End of story right there. And the other unfortunate thing is that some people don't count a pregnancy without a happy ending as a "real" pregnancy. Or a very tiny baby who dies as a "real" child.

And so what if you're being sensitive? You have a right to be. Everybody has a right to be sensitive about a traumatic experience.

I hope this works out for you and you come to an understanding with him.