i went to my GP as i had been bleeding for 2 weeks. She referred me to an OB/GYN as a public patient (he practiced privately and publicly..not sure how this works...). So i went down there that day expecting to be told that the pill i was on just needed changing.
he told me to get up on the table as he would do an internal ultrasound to check things out.
he looked at the screen and told me that i was having a m/c at 8 weeks. he wiped my belly and went over to his desk to write something down and told me to get dressed. i just lay there for awhile trying desperately to curb the shame and sadness that i felt at first not realising that i was pregnant and that i was losing a baby that i know DH and I would have loved and wanted had we known. i got up and stood there for what felt like an eternity and finally had to ask him what i had to do from here. he looked up surprised that i was still there and told me there was nothing to be done. that i would have to pass the baby for the next couple of months that's it. i was devastated. the way he looked at me as though i were asking such a silly, uneducated question. so i left his rooms and saw all these gorgeous brimming bellies and just burst into tears. my DH (DP at the time!) was waiting in the room and had no idea what was going on. i signed the stupid paperwork (the staff didnt even look at me). the OB came out and said in a normal talking voice so that everyone there could hear that i was a m/c and to charge me accordingly and explained the rebate that i would get as a public patient (the 'oh you dont have insurance' question was asked).
it took a good 2 months for everything to clear re the m/c. but soon after i had further complications as there was retained material and endo had come into the picture. and it was later diagnosed that the inaction on the m/c caused me the fertility issues that i had later.
Overall, it was a really awful experience. the handling of the OB and the staff at the hospital was really insensitive. as though i was not worth their time as my baby had died.