Firstly sorry to everyone who has had such bad experiences with Obs, Drs, nurses and medical staff.
I need to start off but saying I was wrong to have judged Male Obs so harshly, I was narrow minded. You will find out why later!
Back in 2006 I got pg I called my Private Ob (same ob that delivered my daughter in 2001) and made an appointment (12 weeks) , I started bleeding at around 7 weeks and being a Sunday I went to Hospital (all a-holes) anyway they were not too sure what was going on it took about 5 weeks for the Drs to work out that I had a Blighted Ovum. My Ob rings me up and says ? I have received all the records from hospital and things like that, I have cancelled your appointment to see me because that appointment is more use to someone else? I said ? What do you mean? Ob said ? Well someone whose baby is alive. I am free in Thursday to do a D & C, I?ll get my sectary to contact to arrange for this thing to be dealt with, and she will also advise you on the costs associated with it?. Fighting with all my might not to cry on the phone I said ?I?ll get back to you?. Got off the phone and cried my eyes out, how could my Ob treat me like this. What really hurt me was that My Ob was a female (only wanted a female), I thought that if anyone would treat me like this it would a Male Ob not a female.
I never called the Ob back, I rung up the Public Hospital John Hunter Hospital I spoke to a really caring and compassionate nurse, I told her everything and she said she would talk to the doctors and arrange an appointment. To fast forward I did have a d & c done at the JJH and the medical staff that I dealt with was really wonderful.
I would never again recommend that Female Ob to people I know. 2007 I got pg again and this time it did not bother me to have a male ob. I had 2 different Male Obs during the pregnancy (due to moving) both of the male Obs were very kind, caring and took the time to explain things to me.
Take care
Mumma_lion