I am so so sorry for the loss of your son.. There is great support in here.. I am not sure where you are but you can get in contact with SANDS or Bonnie Babes foundation and they provide support over the phone and also have meetings.. I go to Bonnie Babes meetings once a month and I find it helps.. You can go alone or with a partner, friend whoever.. Just do what you feel comfy with to get the support you need..
Last edited by blessedatlast; April 13th, 2009 at 03:50 PM.
Bonniew, I am so sorry for your loss its so very cruel to lose a baby at all, let alone full term. Have your doctors being able to tell you why your son died? It won't take away the pain, but perhaps understanding what happened may help you come to terms with it. It's great that you were able to hold him, he truly know that you loved him. Look after yourself and don't be afraid to take more time off if you need it. Is there someone at work that you can speak to about how you are feeling and how it makes you feel with the way people are reacting? Perhaps they can have a chat to those that work close to you at work about how you feel. People generally don't know what to say when someone is grieving, I can relate. Take care of yourself.
I am so sorry to read of your loss, its heart breaking & no-one should have to go through that kind of loss & pain.
You've come to a great place for support, the girls here are fantastic.
I wish I could find the right words but I cant. Take care
Rest In Peace little man xxx
Some people at work have been good but there is one lady who is just being cruel......she told me she understands how i feel because her dog had 6 dead puppies.....pffft really, and she will sit there and tell me how she is going to try for a baby in a few months and how she wants the baby clothes back that she gave me at the baby shower.
I didnt get to hold my baby either the nurse was trying to let me hold him but I didnt want to i was scared that i would hurt him because is skin was very soft....but now i wished i had.
I feel ok during the day its just when i go to bed i start to think about little things that make me upset, like when i brought in clothes for him in the hospital they didnt fit, he was 7 pounds which was a big shock i thought he was going to be tiny, and when i brought clothes for him to wear in his coffin i forgot to bring him socks so i get upset thinking he had cold little feet .
Ohh Bonnie, what a horrible thing. It would be bad enough to lose your child but to then have ti deliver him in such horrible circumstances.
I would put in a complaint about that MW, I know it won't help you but you can make sure it doesn't happen to anyone else.
I would just call that lady at work on her cruel comments, if nobody has done it for you. Tell her if she doesn't have anything supportive to say then please don't say anything at all.
Sending you lots of strength and support. XOXO
Oh Bonnie my heart just broke for you when I read about your fears over your baby's little cold feet. He's fine hun, he's doesn't feel cold, pain or fear, just his mum's love.
No one will ever really understand what you are going through and all you can do is surround yourself with those who are truly only there for you. I think you are an incredible woman going through a terrible time that no one should ever have to endure. I wish you every happiness in the world and in response to this ^&)* at your work, perhaps have a close friend who is rather vocal let her know just how ridiculous and unhelpful her comments are. Some people are just unbelievable.
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