I am so sorry about your loss. Do whatever you need to do to feel better. It's ok to cry, get mad, scream or just sleep. I think that I did all of those things. If you ever need to talk there are always people here to listen or share with. It's almost been a year and still there is not a day goes by that I don't miss my lil angel. BIG HUGS!
Kylie,
I am so sorry for the loss of your precious baby.
Please take your time to grieve the way you feel is right. I know your Mum means well, she doesn't want to see you hurting... perhaps you need to explain to her (or your DH could) that you need to cry... you need to travel through these crashing waves of emotions in order to get to the calmer seas... it will take some time, but you will get there.
Your husband is right... you will never, ever forget.
oh Kylie, I am so sorry sweetie . That is just such a terrible loss. I too have suffered a late miscarriage when I lost my little son Joshua at 20 weeks. That was by far the most heart breaking and devastating experience of my life.
All I can say to you, is please grieve and cry as much as you need to hun, as you have every right to do that. You feel shocked, numb, angry, and then so empty, but this is what a grieving mother goes through. With time you will learn how to live with that grief, and you'll never forget your son. He is such a big part of you.
I wish you with all my heart much strength and courage to get through this very sad time. You and your little angel are in my thoughts and prayers.
Take care Kylie,
Beata xxx
Thank you everyone for your beautiful words. I haven't cried for a few days, but when someone comes up to me and says sorry, then I cry. As well as feeling empty, I also feel lonely, that is a strange one, although I have my son here with me on hols, and hubby here at night, I still feel lonely.
I find myself still counting the weeks, but instead of saying I am, its now I would of been, like this Friday 16th, I would of been 17 weeks, is that natural that I do that....
Anyway I just wanted to thank everyone for there kind, sweet words, and for being my ears. You guys truely rock.
I wonder if any of you really know how much you mean to people like me, who have had a miscarriage, or for the people who want to share their good news. You all deserve s great big
Kylie, what you are feeling is so completely normal hun. After I lost Joshua, I felt like I was so alone, not one word anyone said made me feel better. After all, we lose such a big part of ourselves, it's like a big gaping hole.
I know exacltly what you mean about thinking/saying 'I would have been so many weeks'. My due date is on 12 Feb 09 and almost every week I remind myself of how many weeeks I would have been along. My psychologist told me it's completely natural, as your body still thinks it's pregnant, and the day you stop feeling like this will be on your due date. Then, in some part, a sad chapter can be finally closed.
Big warm hugs to you hun , I hope you continue to feel a little bit better every day, I know we'll never forget.
Love
Beata xxx
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. That is just such a terrible loss. I too have suffered a late miscarriage when I lost my little son Joshua at 20 weeks. That was by far the most heart breaking and devastating experience of my life.
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