There are no words that could possibly relay how sorry I am for your horrible loss. We lost our little boy on the 22nd April, which was hard enough without having to deal with medical staff like you had, that nurse should be sacked! I am so glad you have found this site there are a lot of wonderful supporting women here.
Helen
That is one of the most horrible stories I've ever read, I'm so sorry for your loss and the horrible way you were treated... it defies belief. Recently a woman here miscarried at 17weeks in a public hospital toilet and it was all over the news, they held an inquiry and even then she wasn't treated as poorly as you. It's so unfair.
Many of us have had late losses and I'm sure you'll find the strength to try again. We lost our first a couple of months ago, he was 22 weeks, but the urge to conceive again is so strong isn't it!!
Tildy,
I am in shock reading your story.
The way you were treated was disgusting and I can only begin to imagine how you must be feeling. Sometimes I think that medical staff become so used to dealing with this stuff that they forget there are human beings with fragile emotions involved.
Although I have not suffered a late loss I have been through 3 first trimester m/c's and an ectopic pregnancy so I can empathise with you about wanting this bub sooooo much.
I too have many friends who are pregnant or just had babies and one friend who is due the day after I was (before I had my last m/c). I don't know how I am going to face her over the coming months!
Once again im sorry for your loss and hope you continue to find support on this website as you continue your journey.
Big Hugs, Mel
I am at a loss as to what to say except that you camr to the right place for support. thank you for having the strength to share you story. I am truely sorry that you have had to endure what you did
Dear Tildy, I am so very very sorry for the loss of your little baby.
I wish I could be there to hold your hand and give you lots of hugs, as i can only imagine that you will be needing them.
Allow yourself to grieve for the bub. Are there any support groups that you may be able to attend for families that have experienced late loss in your area? Sometimes finding solidarity with others that have had similar experiences can help in the healing process by knowing that you are not alone and that there are others experiencing similar emotions to your own.
I lost our little angel very early on, at 8 weeks, and because there was nothing 'tangible' to remember him (i had a feeling it was a boy), i bought a keepsake to remember and acknowledge his existence. i also put in there photos of all of us and a letter for him. I keep it in a box and anytime i go in and have a look.
I really hope that you get all the cuddles you need. Here on belly belly there is fantastic support and solidarity for all of us mummas...
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