Tildy,
I am in shock reading your story.
The way you were treated was disgusting and I can only begin to imagine how you must be feeling. Sometimes I think that medical staff become so used to dealing with this stuff that they forget there are human beings with fragile emotions involved.
Although I have not suffered a late loss I have been through 3 first trimester m/c's and an ectopic pregnancy so I can empathise with you about wanting this bub sooooo much.
I too have many friends who are pregnant or just had babies and one friend who is due the day after I was (before I had my last m/c). I don't know how I am going to face her over the coming months!
Once again im sorry for your loss and hope you continue to find support on this website as you continue your journey.
Big Hugs, Mel
I am at a loss as to what to say except that you camr to the right place for support. thank you for having the strength to share you story. I am truely sorry that you have had to endure what you did
Dear Tildy, I am so very very sorry for the loss of your little baby.
I wish I could be there to hold your hand and give you lots of hugs, as i can only imagine that you will be needing them.
Allow yourself to grieve for the bub. Are there any support groups that you may be able to attend for families that have experienced late loss in your area? Sometimes finding solidarity with others that have had similar experiences can help in the healing process by knowing that you are not alone and that there are others experiencing similar emotions to your own.
I lost our little angel very early on, at 8 weeks, and because there was nothing 'tangible' to remember him (i had a feeling it was a boy), i bought a keepsake to remember and acknowledge his existence. i also put in there photos of all of us and a letter for him. I keep it in a box and anytime i go in and have a look.
I really hope that you get all the cuddles you need. Here on belly belly there is fantastic support and solidarity for all of us mummas...
oh my god you poor, poor girl. I am in tears for you and your husband and baby. What a shocking and heartbreaking ordeal you have been through. The way that nurse treated you and your baby was horrendous and you have every right in the world to be angry and hurt. It is no wonder you have been having nightmares. That nurse deserves to be sacked in my opinion.
I agree that a support group would be a great idea...just to have people hear your story and give you some support during this terrible time...here in WA I called SIDS, they really helped me get through some bleak and lonely times....a keepsake box was also helpful for me.
i know there are no words to take away your pain and heartache but there are many ladies here who have been through late loss and gone on to have successful pg's.
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