Papillion & Satya- Thanks for your advice. Talking it through here definitely helped. She finally came to visit yesterday and was o.k. I'm sure it was hard for her too, especially when she can't hide her big baby belly. She let me rave and listened. Her DH was sweet and even offered to take me out for lunch.

njd- Thank you so much for posting. It is definitely at these times when we need all the stories of hope that we can get. I hope I can be just as lucky as your SIL. Not sure about 3 though. Maybe 2