Hi
I am in the same boat as you right now so i dont have all the answers.. i found out 2 weeks ago at my 18 week scan that my little girl was gone. I too thought nothing bad could happen as i had 3 healthy pregnancies..
so far all i figured out is cry when you want to, talk when you need to and dont worry about what anyone else says/ feels
I hope some one who knows a bit more comes along really soon..
Hugs hun