Trying to cope with recent miscarriage

[Inanna]

Welcome to Belly Belly Anna - I am so sorry it is under such sad circumstances...

I am so sorry for the loss of your baby. Missed miscarriages bring with them their own difficulties. It is a dreadful feeling to know that you have carried on normally when such a tragic thing has happened. We question why we didnt' know and why is it that there was not an instinctual knowing. I suffered a missed miscarriage of my DD - I was 16 and a bit weeks and she died at 14 - 15 weeks - I understand the feeling of betrayl by your body.

You will find much loving support on these forums - many women have experienced missed miscarriage - I am sure they will be along to offer you support too.

The necklace is a beautiful idea - I am sending you love and strength..

[anney]

Annatoo,
Your story is very similar to mine. Heartbeat at 6 weeks scan so I then actually accepted that we might have a baby (it was IVF) then a complete shock at the 10 week visit. I also felt that my body had lulled me into a false sense of security. especially when m/s continued for some weeks after the miscarriage.
I can understand how you feel a bit afraid to try again but don't think that time is running out. I had my first child at 40. when you feel up to it, try again and it will hopefully all be different the next time.

[Kitt3n]

Hi Anna,

Welcome to BB, it is very sad that you are joining in such terible circumstances.

I myself have had 2 missed miscarriages - one at almost 7 weeks and the second at almost 10 weeks.

(flowerchild - you have really scared me with your post!)

But you do get through it, big xox.

I found that my DD was my strength during both - she really did keep me going.

Scream, cry, run, hide, be with people - whatever it is that helps yo get through this. you will find much strenght on BB.

[AnnaToo]

Thank you all for your kind thoughts. It has been helpful to write down how I was feeling and get your replies. I had my 2 week check-up today and everything seemed fine but it made me cry to be back at the doctor's office.
My husband seems to be getting over this more quickly than me but I expect that's normal.
I'll have to decide when and whether to try again. If we do, I'm sure I'll have to visit the TTC after m/c forum a lot! And if we get pregnant I'm sure I'll be a complete disaster and will need even more help.
Thanks again,
Anna

[NaeNae]

Anna,

I am so deeply sorry.

This is a horrible thing to go through and you do feel very betrayed by your body. I was physically 9 weeks when I discovered I had started to mc. That bub hadn't developed past 4 and a bit weeks.

Partners do have trouble with early mc I don't know why, maybe its because the bubs weren't developed yet but I can tell you it has touched him in some way. Its not the same for us women though because its happened to us and was growing within us.

Take what time you can get to greive.

When you decide its time to try again it will be a very scary time but you will come through it.

There is no greater pain than a mc or loss if you ever need to chat feel free to pm me.

Nae x x

[tina_k]

Oh Anna too, Im so so sorry to hear of your loss. I miscarried at 9 weeks too, and had the d & c a week later. @ days after that my sister in law told me she was pregnant …this broke my heart. She is due 2 weeks after my baby would have been born. She is now 6 weeks away from delivering, and i break down every time I see her or talk to her about her baby..im happy for her on the one hand, but I find it so hard to hear about her pregnancy without feeling grief and loss of my own…

We miscarried in December, and our bub would have been due next month…
We have been trying again since then, but no luck as yet, im praying so hard for it to come soon…I really wanted to be pg again for my due date…I don’t know how else I will get though it otherwise…

Please cry as much as you need to.. I know that there is nothing anyone can say that will take this pain away, but I also know that it slowly does get better…

BB was a lifesaver for me when I needed to talk, so please come back as often as you need to, there will always be someone here to listen…