Hi Leis
I have a number of family members who were adopted from overseas as well as a whole host of contacts with varying numbers of children adopted through ICA. Whilst this type of adoption has many wonderful aspects for both the parents and the child, intercountry adoption also has a whole host of other 'challenges' to do with identity. I have seen first hand the struggles these people experienced as children, adolescents, young adults and now adults as a result of being adopted from another country/culture. And these were in families who spent a great deal of time and effort doing all 'the right things' to support their children!

I don't wish to put a dampener on your enthusiasm, rather just bring up the fact that ICA adds another whole dimension of parenting challenges that seem to be trivialised by the latest wave of celebrity adoptions. For example, I think it is just scandalous that Madonna has been able to adopt (or whatever they want to call the process at the moment) a child and then go back to work and not devote 100% of her time to her children. It's even worse given the age of the little boy.

Something you might wish to consider if you haven't done so already, is get in touch with some local ICA support groups, meet some parents and find out about their experiences. These groups are usually small non-profit groups and not under the auspices of DoCS.

I wish you well with whatever path you choose. I know I am so lucky to be expecting my little one any tick of the clock and not be faced with such decisions.