Jacinta, I appreciate your thanks.

I hope I didn't sound like a bitter angry adoptee!!!

It's very common for adoptee's to be a bit sensitive to wording used when talking about adoption. Especially in the wake of the 'celebrity adoption' phenomenon, and how the media etc. phrase things.

If someone does adopt a child, open adoption is really important IMHO.

Having access to information, and also not being made to feel 'guilty' for wanting to know that information. For aparents not to feel threatened by their child wanting to search, but to support and give them understanding.
The child may or may not want to know their history. That should be a decision the child makes. To actively and openly be able to discuss the issues with their child, they will help them immensely. A big thing for me was to feel unconditional love by my aparents, they were awesome. They were always honest and open about my adoption and I feel that this gave me a grounded perspective. I felt I could approach my parents to talk about my feelings and not made to feel like anything was a secret, or shameful.

This is a big deal, to an adoptee!